Possible Relationship?

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Possible Relationship?
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Thu, 04-05-2007 - 1:16am

There is the guy that i have known for about 6 months now, we havent really hung out a lot, but just recently him and I have been talking quite a bit. We then lost touch for a few weeks, and then again went right back to talking. To make a long story short we went out to a bar and had a few drinks and later that evening he spent the night. It was like magic. He kissed me and made the first move, and honestly took me by surprise! I have had a crush on him for months now, and i was in shock over what was happening. This happened 2 more times in the past week where we would hang out and have an awesome time together and he'd spend the night. When we awoke in the morning and i looked at him, it was as almost as if he was completely happy, i got the feeling he felt comfortable and enjoyed being with me, almost as if he didnt want to go.

I have been thinking about him all week and can not get him out of my head.
I feel like we have this bond, something i've never felt with someone before. I spoke to him today and i told him i really wanted to see him this weekend and he responded yeah definately. It seems like he is interested, however i don't know if i should ask or not what he is looking for. Any ideas?




Edited 4/5/2007 1:20 am ET by zackyzac
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 04-05-2007 - 1:33am

Of course he's interested.....but in what? You're intimate with him, and he's interested in that for sure......is he interested in a real relationship with you? There's only one way to find out.....ASK HIM.

You're making it very easy for him.....you're asking to see him, and you're giving him sex. That may be all he wants, and if you want more, then you need to ask. There is no other way to find out.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 04-05-2007 - 9:03am

Welcome to the board zac. It seems like the two of you may have fallen into a relationship, you just are not sure yet whether it's a purely sexual relationship -- like friends with benefits. It sounds as if you would like your relationship to be a more committed relationship of BF/GF.

How does he treat you when the two of you are out? Does he treat you like a date or like a friend? When I was dating, if I felt like he was treating me like a GF or a date, then I just let things take their course. If I wasn't interested in being their GF, or if I felt I wanted more from the relationship than they did, then I would ask some questions to feel them out.

If you are not comfortable with the thought of having a relationship where you can enjoy whatever it brings -- just sex or more -- then I think you need to talk with him. Let him know that you really enjoy your relationship, but that you would like it to be more.

When you are wondering how he feels, here are some things to consider...

Is there a reason why the two of you didn't see each other during the week? Have you been having conversation throughout the week -- about things other than meeting this weekend? What plans did you make for this weekend? Are you going out on a date, or for fun -- or are you just hooking up for sex?