Is that a possiblity?

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Registered: 03-12-2006
Is that a possiblity?
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Mon, 04-24-2006 - 10:34am
I have been on birth control for years, and I can't stand using condoms. I started dating this guy and we talked about our previous sexual encounters, and he has used a condom everytime. Well, I really don't like them...honestly everytime I use one it burns to pee the next day, so we haven't used one. Now my question is, because he's so used to using them and now he's not, would that be a reason he is climaxing way ahead of time? If so (or not) what can I do to prevent him from only lasting 3-7 minutes? If not, what else could it possibly be?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 11:38am

Yes, it's very possible since he's not using condoms he gets more stimulation.


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Registered: 04-23-2006
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 11:54am
Not sure if that is true as my lover (I have a open Marriage) always used condoms with previous partners but I prefer him bareback has no problems "doing" me until I climax several times. I love him in me naked & love him depositing his sperm in me!
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Registered: 04-22-2006
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 2:27pm
Yeah, my boyfriend comes A LOT faster now that I am using birth control. It doesn't feel all that different to me!
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Registered: 03-12-2006
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 3:29pm
Well, my ex could last forever without a condom...its just a little aggrivating that the past few times that we have had sex without a condom he came in 3 mins or less. I just don't know what to do...I haven't had an orgasm in 3 days...so any advice on how to make things better (either so he lasts longer, or I get mine quicker) please feel free to let me know.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 5:03pm

>>because he's so used to using them and now he's not, would that be a reason he is climaxing way ahead of time?<<

More than likely. There is a big change in sensation and there is a mental thing going on too. Give him some time to get used to it. He'll learn to control himself and he'll last longer, anyway 3-7 minutes isn't too bad actually. You could try to spend more time on foreplay or maybe even have your orgasm during foreplay in the meantime. You said you haven't had an orgasm in three days? There's nothing stopping you finishing yourself off after he's done either. And don't panic. A person can live without an orgasm for a much longer time than three days.

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Registered: 04-22-2006
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 8:02pm
Well, at least you aren't like me. I have NEVER orgasmed from sex before. Sure, it feels amazing still, but nope,not yet. I only started having sex like 4 months ago, but i'm gettin' a little anxious here. So, be happy you are orgasming at all!!! Good luck with the condom thing...my boyfriend is just beginning as well so 3 minutes would be good for him..Ah!