premature ejaculation

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Registered: 09-26-2004
premature ejaculation
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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 11:34am
is there any one that can tell me how to make hubby last longer been together 17yrs.

dosen't seam to get longer with time? and experiance i just get warmed up and he's

already about to cum if i dont hold him off some times it would be all done

i say all i have to do is grab his ears and it's all done ha! ha!

i kind of would like it to be a little longer than 1-2 minutes he says

any thing thats good never lasts long ha! ha! some advice would be good
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 11:59am
"Anything that's good, never lasts long." Well, gee, I guess that's EASY to say when his needs are being met, isn't it? I wonder if he would still feel that way if the shoe were on the other foot though!

Does he do anything for you BEFORE intercourse? Does he manually or orally bring you to orgasm before or after intercourse? If not, then he's dropping the ball and it's no wonder you're frustrated.

The fact is that it's normal for men to orgasm faster than women, most men do, within 2 minutes of penetration, on average, but most DO learn to delay for their partner. But if he's not been able to learn to delay orgasm, or has no desire to learn how after 17 years, then you're going to have to change your expectations.

Make sure that YOU are satisfied BEFORE penetration or that you're almost to orgasm before, through plenty of foreplay. He might be able to last longer if the pressure is off him to perform and he may begin to enjoy your pleasure as much as his own.

Personally, I think everyone can and should learn to adapt to their partner's needs, maybe not totally to the expectation of their partner, but enough that both are reasonably satisfied and happy.....IF there is motivation, incentive and support.


Edited 10/14/2004 12:17 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Registered: 08-11-2004
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 1:45pm
I remembering being a bit younger with this problem once in a while, especially when It was a while in between sex and occasionally now. I my SO would make me cum orally watch me JO once before we had sex. This would always help prolong ejaculation. Also, he sould masturbate daily and practice "holding it in" when you can't have sex.

Also, just in case I would always try to please her orally to orgasm , in case it was too hot and I couldn't hold out. Just my 2cents

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 10-15-2004 - 10:15pm
My bf prematurely ejaculates sometimes. It's not a big deal to me because we can just do it later lol. BUT I feel so bad and I don't know what to say. He just says "that's a b**ch" and starts laughing and there I am just not knowing what to say so I stare into his eyes and kiss him to death. I don't know what to say. Is saying nothing or "it's alright" too much or too little? I'm confused