Premature Ejaculation
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Premature Ejaculation
| Fri, 06-25-2004 - 8:28am |
I recently started reading these boards to help spice up my sex life. And it's definitely helping. Anyway, my husband has always come early (after 2-3 minutes), and I never really cared b/c I wasn't always having fun anyway. So now that things are spicing up, it does bother me. When we first got married, he could last forever. But in the last two years or so, he hasn't lasted long at all. The good thing though is that he can get hard again, so we can do it again (did it three times last night), but I would rather have one longer session. Any suggestions?

Hi Steph,
I think you will find and most people will agree that your dh's issues, although directly affecting you and a concern to you, is his problem.
Sharon
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IF you are enjoying sex more and asking for what you need from him, then ask him what you can do to make one longer session more possible. Doesn't mean that it will happen but I think you should make your desires known.
IF he's unable to regain his control, you may have to continue to make do with multiple sessions but I think if he's aware of your feelings, he'll make an effort to accomodate you.
When I first met my husband, he would come really quickly - sometimes he couldn't even control himself to get inside me first! I thought of premature ejacuation too, but he kept telling me he was just so excited to finally be with a woman that he really connected with sexually. As time passed, he was able to hold off from climaxing so quickly and now, he's master of that. lol. But what I tried to to in the beginning was just do a little something, away from his real sensitive areas, then stop and move and do something like kiss him or give him little kisses everywhere - something to keep his excitement level down.
It was difficult in the beginning, but after he got over the initial excitement of us being intimate, we got into a groove and he was able to last a lot longer.
Good luck. If I remember anything else, I'll let you know!
Just a thought!
You 2 can "retrain" your man's sexual response. In the book ESO*Extended Sexual Orgasm by Alan Brauer & Donna Brauer, exercises are explained to control the ejaculation response. There are breathing exercises and methods to finding the "point-of-no-return."
Your man needs to know when he can't hold back ejaculation any longer (point-of-no-return). Good luck & keep us posted. Mac