Premature Ejaculation Remedies

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Registered: 12-12-2004
Premature Ejaculation Remedies
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Sun, 12-12-2004 - 7:53pm

Hi. I have been married for 4 years. My husband has ALWAYS had a problem with PE. Throughout our marriage we have tried various pills, creams, etc... to help the problem. Nothing ever works.

It's gotten to the point where I have spent 4 years completely unsatisfied and thinking about having an affair. After talking with some close friends I have decided to give things another try. My husband has been loking on-line for herbal remedies. He was reading about Libidus today. Has anyone used this? Any advice or opinions?

http://www.libidus-usa.com/

Thanks in advance!!

Chantel

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Sun, 12-12-2004 - 8:14pm

There are exercises that he could do. I can't give the details, I'm sure someone here will be able to explain...

As far as your unsatisfaction... oral, manual, vibrator, dildo... a man with premature ejaculation problem can still keep you very satisfied.

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Registered: 01-11-2004
Sun, 12-12-2004 - 8:36pm

Hi Cocoagirl:


1-A good book to have is ESO: Extended Sexual Orgasm by Alan P. Brauer, M.D., and Donna Brauer.

 

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Sun, 12-12-2004 - 11:55pm
I have a question maybe someone can answer. I am 36 and married but also seeing someone who is 27 and also married.... so it has been along time since I have been with another man. I have been w/ my OM twice...the first time he lasted maybe 3 minutes but the other day I met him in a parking lot and I am not kidding when I say this but I bet it lasted thirty seconds. I did not know someone could achieve an O this quick. I am afraid to say anything to him because I know guys are self conscious about this. Do you think it is the excitement of the affair or does he have a problem? I want so bad to ask him if he is like this with his wife but am not comfortable in doing so. We are both unhappily married so I do not think he gets much at home?
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 12-13-2004 - 12:48am

What are you calling Premature ejaculation? Is it that he doesn't last long enough to satisfy you? That's not PE......PE is when he doesn't even get to enter you.

Has he been to a doctor to be checked out? Chances are that it's not something physical, but something emotional. Pills and herbs can't help that. He can train himself to last longer with the start and stop method.

But more importantly than that.....if you're like most women, you're not going to have orgasms from intercourse alone anyway. If he takes enough time for foreplay to satisfy you orally or manually.....you won't be frustrated. Then he might be able to build enough confidence in himself to be able to last longer. Hopefully, you're not complaining or belittling him for this problem, because that only makes it worse.

If you think it's worth an affair just to have an orgasm, that doesn't say much for your marriage or your feelings for your husband! It would be better to put that effort into working with your husband, and even a sex therapist if that's necessary. That's a positive thing......affairs are only negative, and don't cure anything, just add more problems.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 12-13-2004 - 8:15am
How long does he last?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 12-13-2004 - 8:26am

If you are both unhappily married, then why are the both of you still married?


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Registered: 12-10-2004
Mon, 12-13-2004 - 9:15am
Thanks for the input but we both have kids and don't want to leave spouses for those reasons. I have been so unhappy in my marriage that I do think I will be leaving after the holidays!! Yes I know it is wrong to fool around with a MM and maybe it is a booty call on both our parts!! He is the second affair I have had recently and maybe I just like the attention I receive from these men. Although you did not answer my question I appreciate the input and maybe next time I will have the guts to ask him what the problem is. Thanks again!