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| Tue, 05-16-2006 - 5:26pm |
okay... i want some advice pertaining to women who dated a man for years and then got married. I want to know when you started having sex... and how it is now... and maybe what you would have done differently.

I dated Dh for 2 years before we got married and we've been married for 26 years.
We actually had sex before we started dating. We'd met one another several times and knew there was something significant between us, but we never officially dated until after we "hooked up" one night and had sex.
The sex has gradually improved over time. There are no significant milestones in our sexual relationship. We learnt what each other likes and enjoys and doesn't like and that continues to this day with us refining what we do and how we do it. We try new things as they occur to us and as the opportunity arises. I don't think that we would have done anything differently. There are things that we do now that we didn't do to begin with, but it took time to sort that out and it's been resolved. With hindsight you can say "Oh yes I might have done that slightly differently" but at the time you didn't know that.
Dated DH for a year, had sex after about 3 mos. together. Wouldn't change anything. We still enjoy sex very much, if not moreso, than when we were younger. We've been together 30 years.
My DH was a technical virgin when we met and I got the benefit of training him to please me with no preconceived ideas from past lovers.