pretty nervous

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Registered: 10-26-2004
pretty nervous
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Thu, 07-21-2005 - 12:42pm

okay here is the deal i havent had sex in about two years... my boyfriend is moving here the first of september and living with me, i am so excited about being with him and having a wild sex life like we both want... but at the same time i am scared to death after all this time has gone by... has anyone else encountered this or dealt with this... he knows how long it has been for me and he knows i am nervous but i want to get over that before he gets here any ideas?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tedsmomma
Thu, 07-21-2005 - 2:29pm

What exactly is it that you're so nervous about? Him seeing you naked? Him feeling that you are inhibited or frigid? I'm not sure what your fears are so it's hard to reply to that aspect of your problem.

I can assure you though, that many of us go through periods of celibacy, for many reasons, even within marriage! But sex is like riding a bike...you never forget how it's done. Each partner is different in their preferences, etc. but the basics are the same.

Respond to him spontaneously, that shouldn't be hard since you care for him and you haven't had sex in a while, and just be yourself. Don't worry about what he's thinking or feeling, just be in the moment and enjoy one another. Nothing is more erotic than a fully responsive and enthusiastic partner.

Have fun and stop worrying! I'm sure he's not!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: tedsmomma
Thu, 07-21-2005 - 7:30pm
I have to ask also, what exactly are you so nervous about and we might be able to answer you better?

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Registered: 10-26-2004
In reply to: tedsmomma
Fri, 07-22-2005 - 2:03am
honestly i really dont know what exactally it is that is making me so nervous.... i want to be with him in every way and i am not shy about sex ever but for some reason i am so worried i wont be what he expects or gosh i dont even know i feel like i am virgin bride on my wedding night.... lol it is confusing me

 

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Registered: 01-07-2005
In reply to: tedsmomma
Fri, 07-22-2005 - 2:16am
I went 9 years without and the saying is true: Once you learn you never forget! I was truly amazed how the body reacted (like it had been yesterday). So do relax and enjoy!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: tedsmomma
Fri, 07-22-2005 - 7:38am
Don't worry about if you'll be what he expects and all that stuff.

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