preventing too deep of a penetration

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Registered: 06-28-2005
preventing too deep of a penetration
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Sat, 12-16-2006 - 5:48am
Hi,
I need an advice. My husband has quite a long penis. It is not a problem for me until we use my and his favorite position: he takes me from behind. It is not a problem when I’m about to ovulate because my cervix is quite high. But all other time, he has to control how much he penetrates, otherwise I will be hurting. If he needs to control how much he needs to penetrate it is not so much fun for him because he is thinking about not penetrating too deep instead of just enjoining having sex. And it is not so much fan for me either because I’m thinking about him not penetrating so much because I know it will heart.
So my question is: does anybody know of a adult toy or of a device that my husband can simply put on the base of his penis to prevent him from deep penetration so he and I do not have to worry and just enjoy the moment?
Thank you,
Julianne
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Registered: 06-07-2005
Sun, 12-17-2006 - 12:15am
Go shopping for a c*ck ring. Find a nice thick one and then have him penetrate you. Move the ring up to where it is comfortable. The ring acts as a marker to keep him from going too far.
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Registered: 11-10-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 1:08pm

Hello ivjulianne!

I also am having a problem with this with my boyfriend. Did you mention anything to your gynocologist about it? I'm beginning to think that I may have a lowered cervix because it just seems as though every time we have sex and he penetrates deeply, it is either really uncomfortable for me, or just plain hurts. I am always very sore and crampy for hours afterward also. I've been thinking about asking my ob/gyn if it is a problem with my cervix or not, so that's why I was curious if you had done the same. I never had this problem with my ex, but his penis was much smaller than my current boyfriend's. I'm wondering also if I'm perhaps allergic to the type of condom we've been using????? Has using a lubricant helped at all for you?? I'm kind've at a loss here....

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Registered: 11-22-2004
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 3:04pm
From behind can be really brutal it can just go in so far. What i did sometimes was ask him to hold onto it, just sort of put a finger around the base of his penis and he can then cup his balls with the other fingers or something while he's at it, which i know feels great. (When the guy is behind you can't really reach it yourself too easily, at least in the right way.) That actually seemed to work if he'd remember to do it. The problem is that when guys get excited they don't care if you split right in half, they just want it to go deeper and deeper.
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Registered: 09-15-2004
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 5:32pm

I had the same problem - with DH's length as well as girth. In the beginning I was scared. Then I asked my Gyn and the doc told me 2 things:

1 - It's really flexible down there once you are relaxed. It can easily accomodate the (size) we were talking about. Did educate me more about lubricants though!!!
2 - Offerred to do a 'dilation' but only after a few weeks if it persists

I got more practical advice from a friend - Get him to loose the first load!!!

So we started our relationship with me first helping him out and he had to have his first orgasm some other way. That way he was not as eager the second time around. Also, it was softer if you don't let too much of a gap inbetween the first and second orgasm for him.

The other thing that helped initially was me being on top so I could control the depth and thrusts as well.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 5:32pm
Have you tried keeping your legs closer together during doggy so that you can prevent him from penetrating too deeply? I have this problem as well, and that works for me. You don't have to keep your legs tightly together, just not wide open. Then, when you can feel him gradually going in further with each thrust, you can close them a little and prevent him from going any deeper. My DH rarely hits my cervix anymore.