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P*rn Problem
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 2:56pm |
Ok, I am not sure if it is just me or if other people feel the same way, but I have tried to watch p*rn now several times with BF/SO's and I just don't get it. Tried again last night and I am in just a BLAH mood over it. I mean don't get me wrong the girls are hot, but shut the F*ck up already. Along with some of the things that are performed....BJ for example....what is the point of making yourself choke on purpose? What is that about? That is totally Gross. I mean hell, go right ahead and deep throat, but where is the pleasure of making yourself just about sick and then spitting right back on his c*ck??? I don't know if I just needed to vent or maybe still not even watching the right types of p*rn, but is there really the "right" type??? Any one else out there like me??? Is there something else I should try??? Any help would be great seeing as how this current BF is totally into it. Thanks.

maybe you should try girl-girl porn. the girls tend to be more into it and less faking it and in general it is a more playful and trusting dynamic. the scene isn't all about the cum shot. it doesn't matter if you are not into lesbian sex. as weird as it sounds, it's not really about that (although literally it is). women tend to identify with the female character and if she isn't into it they can tell right away and are turned off by it.
i recently saw one called 'lusty busty pvssy patrol' -- it was a canny b-movie, started out slow but had some pretty good sex scenes (except for the last one which wasn't convincing).
don't give up on porn just yet, there's something out there for everyone.
Totally agree with sexagenarian.
You could have a problem if your point of view isn't respected and taken into account by your BF. You shouldn't feel pressured to watch porn if you are turned off by it.
IF you can't find some kind of erotica, note I said EROTICA, not porn, that you both can enjoy, then why not just leave him to it? Erotica is not porn with all it's gynological shots and extreme acts. It's more realistic so you can relate to it as a woman.
Look for erotica produced by women so that you can find something to relate to. Only if you choose to though. Don't feel that you MUST enjoy it because he does.
Porn is primarily produced for men by men, so it's no wonder that many women are turned off by it.
Just don't compromise your values or yourself to keep a BF happy. IF he loves you, he wouldn't want you to.
Edited 6/23/2006 9:17 pm ET by katmandoo2001
Porn is definately not for everyone.
For me, much of the porn is gross. However, many of the movies by Andrew Blake are more artsy, but they do have lots of girl-girl sex (which I personally love).
Also, try the following movies (I copied this from a post I just made in the Taboos board): "Elements of Desire" is by far our favorite. It focuses on a married couple having sexual problems. She learns of some late night hardcore movies on TV and starts to learn about some of her hidden desires. She has lots of fantasies that, I think, many married women may have but could be afraid to talk about. She then learns that he's having an affair which then turns into some very nice threesome's between the three of them. Just thinking of this movie has made me pull it out to get ready for tonight!!! Yummies!
That movie is hardcore, but doesn't portray any of the scenes you talk about. It is very well done, has some diverse sex in it, and actually has a story line that still allows lots of great sex scenes.
Anne.
Good luck with trying it again. Personally I've never particularly liked any of the Andrew Blake stuff I've seen. Even though I'm a guy I just don't "get" about 99.9% of the porn that is out there either. I guess it must be harder for a lot of women to "get it" because so much porn is made for guys and totally ignores the women's point of view to the point of being downright disrespectful of it. I like to see hot people having realistic sex and looking like they're actually turned on and enjoying themselves. So much of the porn is mechanical, staged and plainly rediculous or even gross.
I don't think that I've ever seen a porn movie that, overall, you could say was great. There are always some silly scenes in it that overshadow the otherwise good scenes. Ones that have been better that I've seen are "Heart & Soul", "Falling from Grace" and "Pirates". Again, not 100% great but they are a bit more interesting than many of the others.
Mind you, like the others have said, if you just don't get it, then don't worry about it. Some like porn, others don't. It's no biggie if you don't. There is certainly nothing that says that you have to. You could always let your b/f watch them on his own time and just get him to leave them out of your sex life together.