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| Sat, 09-24-2005 - 12:46pm |
Hi,
I'm 23 and have recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend of more than a year. The first and second times were so painful I nearly cried. We've done it maybe seven or eight more times. Initially, it is painful upon entry. When he's finally in, I realy don't feel much of anything except a very uncomfortable pinch when he goes in very deep. I can't understand why I don't feel *any* pleasure, only pain, if anything. I feel like I produce enough lubrication on my own, but I have tried lubrication (KY jelly), but it doesn't seem to be working. My boyfriend and I can't figure out what's going on. Any advice?

Sex shouldn't be painful.
I have a similar problem- it hurts- a lot- when we are having sex, like my vagina is way too small and being spread too much, a lot of burning, pressure pain.
We have been married for 2 years, having sex for 6 years, with pain the entire time that is really starting to have detrimental effects on sex. Because of the pain, I hate having sex and actually squeeze him out when we do have sex, without trying.
I get plenty lubricated, with my own secretions and astrolube, etc, and we do a lot of foreplay- I always want it until he enters, then it hurts. We have tried all the psoitions we could think of or find. some are better than others, but they all hurt. I've tried relaxing and deep breathing during sex, and it still hurts. We have also tried having me have an orgasm first, but the only gives hima few minutes until my muscles tighten and I start to dry out and return to presex-mode, so that hasn't helped either. I don't have any STDS (it's not PID) and have never had other symptoms to suggest endometriosis.
So, I don't have a solution for you! All I can say is that I encourage you to try what the other poster suggested, but will say that I have tried it and it didn't work for us. However, you are a little earlier into it, and sex can often hurt a lot in the beginning as your body leanrs to accomadate it. You might also have an incompletely perforated hymen, which your ob/gyn can check for (now that you are sexually active, if you ahven't seen one, you should.) We are going to get couples counseling to see if there is an issue there, and I am going to see my ob/gyn to look for physcial problems. In the past she has told me to see a counselor, so this time I am going to describe the pain in detail (the ripping pressure, not dry rubbing) and be persistant.
Anyone else have any ideas? Am I missing something? I'll try whatever I can! We now have sex with him "penetrating" between my thighs rather than into my vagina, becuase that we can both enjoy! I would like to get pregnant someday, and at this rate, it won't happen- we have only had full intercouarse 4 times since we were married almost 2 years ago.
TIA and hope this helps others of you- at least to know that you aren't alone!
If you are taking all the steps necessary to make sex painless and pleasurable....plenty of foreplay, extra lube, taking your time, etc. then you should mention this pain to your gynecologist next time you go in. It's possible that you suffer from vulvadynia, an extreme nerve sensitivity at the vaginal entrance, characterized by burning, stinging and sharp pain with penetration or manipulation of the vulva.
While there may be SOME slight discomfort the first time, because of inexperience, lack of lubrication, nerves, etc., intercourse should never be painful as you've described.
You should get checked out for a physical problem and if your doctor can't find anything physically wrong, talk to him/her about the possibility of vaginismus.