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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 2:18am
is it typical for people to be silent during sex? my DW is a quiet type (no moaning or groaning) sometimes it feels I'm not doing enough.But she is orgasmic and she does not see it as a problem.Anybody have any thought on how i can get her to be;lets say more enthusiastic during sex or should i just try to enjoy the way things are?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: ossawinnamakee43
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 7:37am

There's nothing typical when it comes to people or sex.


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In reply to: ossawinnamakee43
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 9:05am

As Tish said, nothing is "typical" about sex. For HER, it's typical. Evidently you've asked her, because you say she's "orgasmic" and sees no problem. Did you then tell her that you'd like a little more enthusiasm? For some women, it's just the way they are, they're not capable of "letting loose". Does she "act" enthusiastic, or does she just "lay there" and do nothing? Have you tried talking to HER during sex? Have you tried asking her questions...."How does that feel"......"do you like that"....."what do you want me to do next"? Being "orgasmic" is nice, but there's more to sex than that.

There's nothing you can do but encourage her, but if you push that too hard, she's liable to start putting on a "performance" for you, and you wouldn't want that, either, I don't think. You didn't say your ages, or how long you've been married, but many younger women just don't know how to be more vocal. Sometimes that comes with age.

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Registered: 11-17-2005
In reply to: ossawinnamakee43
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:23am
Typical? Who knows, everyone is different and you just can't lump it into one particular category. As for me I am "enthusiastic" during sex, but DH is quiet, no moans, etc.

 

 

 

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In reply to: ossawinnamakee43
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 4:38pm

Everyone is different. My SO doesn't make any noise during sex. The odd time he does make a noise is a huge surprise (and turn on) for me. I have accepted that is the way he is. I never made much noise during sex with my ex of four years, or at least if I was really enjoying it and could make noise, but I needed to be quiet, then I was quite easily able to, because things weren't that intense. But with my current SO he has found that I enjoy being with him so much I CAN'T keep quiet, or I am concentrating so hard on being quiet that I end up shaking through my orgasms, and he ends up with permanent marks where my nails have dug in. And he knows exactly what to do to make me moan louder lol.

Noise during sex doesn't imply enthusiasm. Do you have children? If she is conscious of making too much noise, then she will be concentrating on not making noise in case she wakes them up. If you can't stand the silence turn the stereo on.

 


 


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In reply to: ossawinnamakee43
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 1:08am

~Did you then tell her that you'd like a little more enthusiasm? For some women, it's just the way they are, they're not capable of "letting loose". Does she "act" enthusiastic, or does she just "lay there" and do nothing~

i did mention it once ,and thats all say about that.She does have a bigger appetite for sex then i do(DW could do it every day,me once every two weeks)and likes multiple postions"enthusiasm" would be the wrong word I guess. I just thought i would ask about the quietness . Thanks for all your thoughts