I would have thought nothing of it (a man saying that he was wondering what I tasted like).... Since **I** would probably be thinking the same exact thing about him, I certainly couldn't think "badly* of him, now could I? ;-) I once had a group of men (husbands of my friends) say something similar... We were at a barbeque and I was setting the table where three of the men were sitting. One said: "We were wondering how you would be on the grill?" I responded: (naively...of course) "I can cook as good on the grill as I do on the stove." Then one of the other men said: "No, he meant: "We were wondering how you would *BE* (and he emphasized and smily wryly while repeating the word 'be') on the grill?" **Ding...ding** I finally caught on (I was a little embarrassed not only for missing it but by what they were asking), and I tried hard to compose myself and to not spoil the "fun." I said very matter-of-factly as I began to walk away: "Oh...I guess you'd have to ask my husband that one!"
You would have to know the woman and would have to be somewhat intimate with her. Why not take her to see a "chick flick" that has a scene where a man is performing cunnilingus so that you can talk about the "scene" and then go in for the kill with your "desire." "The Postman Always Rings Twice" with Jack Nicholson and Jessica Lange or "Message in a Bottle" with Kevin Costner and Robin Wright (although the former is a hotter scene). You have to think like a woman, Rice....think of ways to "smoothly" introduce your desires, without making them seem so "out there." ;-) We women have "moves" that you men are oblivious to.
As far as the "Carnal Knowledge" statement.....what is so weird about that one? I didn't see the movie (it's one that I will make a point to)...but was he being sarcastic? Just for the record, I say that sometimes.... ;-)
Yes, the scene in "Analyze This" definitely reveals the "Madonna/Whore Complex." How stupid is that logic? Maybe he shouldn't masturbate either, because those are the *hands* that touch his babes.... (**rolls eyes**).
Think about it, Rice.... You are dating a woman for a while and the two of you have been "physical." It is completely "normal" for you to desire having sex with her (and she, you ). Why would you want a woman who would "punish" you for being honest and expressing your innermost thoughts--particularly if they are thoughts about *her*? You do call the shots...you do have control over your own life. If you want a woman who would not be so taken aback from such a statement....you have to take that risk. You may go through a lot of women, but at least you'll be left with the "right" kind of woman for you. You see? In some sense, we create our own destinies.
It's interesting that you said that you might have been thinking the same thing, because I would have never expected that. As much difficulty as I have now believing that women have sexual thoughts about men, it never would have occurred to me that such a thing was even possible when I was single, and much younger.
The story about the barbeque reminded me of something else I read a long time ago. It was humorous story about a group who held a 'wife-tasting party'. After finishing the meal at a dinner party the men went into the living room while the women gathered in the dining room. The women took off their underwear and sat on the table with their skirts pulled up. The men were then led in one at a time, blindfolded, and proceeded to 'taste' each of the wives. The objective was to see how many of the men could identify their wife from her 'taste'. Maybe you and your friends could have played that game at the barbeque, LOL.
It's also interesting that you didn't think the Jack Nicholson quote was funny. Most men would have thought a man saying that after having sex was hilarious. I guess women have a different perspective on something like that.
ha ha ha.... it wouldn't be fair, unless they drank water between each "meal." ;-)
I didn't take the quote as humourous because you preceded it with this:
"I just could see so may downsides to saying something like that and little, if any, upside. There was another line that I also never got to use, but this was mainly because I never thought of it at the appropriate time. It's what Jack Nicholson said to Ann Margret in 'Carnal Knowledge' when, after a very energetic love-making session, as they lay in the bed, sweaty and out of breath, he said to her “I almost came that time.”"
You were being quite serious. You were talking about downsides and never getting to say things at the "appropriate times" which led me to believe that you never got to "almost come" (assuming you always come as most men do). Looking at the scene from a different perspective (sarcasm), it is quite hillarious (particuarly since Jack said it). It's hard in this medium to decipher what exactly the author wants to portray. I will rent that movie sooner than had planned...particuarly since I like Nicholson (and you often quote it in your posts). When I watch it, I'm going to be going "aha....makes sense now..." ;-)
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I would have thought nothing of it (a man saying that he was wondering what I tasted like).... Since **I** would probably be thinking the same exact thing about him, I certainly couldn't think "badly* of him, now could I? ;-) I once had a group of men (husbands of my friends) say something similar... We were at a barbeque and I was setting the table where three of the men were sitting. One said: "We were wondering how you would be on the grill?" I responded: (naively...of course) "I can cook as good on the grill as I do on the stove." Then one of the other men said: "No, he meant: "We were wondering how you would *BE* (and he emphasized and smily wryly while repeating the word 'be') on the grill?" **Ding...ding** I finally caught on (I was a little embarrassed not only for missing it but by what they were asking), and I tried hard to compose myself and to not spoil the "fun." I said very matter-of-factly as I began to walk away: "Oh...I guess you'd have to ask my husband that one!"
You would have to know the woman and would have to be somewhat intimate with her. Why not take her to see a "chick flick" that has a scene where a man is performing cunnilingus so that you can talk about the "scene" and then go in for the kill with your "desire." "The Postman Always Rings Twice" with Jack Nicholson and Jessica Lange or "Message in a Bottle" with Kevin Costner and Robin Wright (although the former is a hotter scene). You have to think like a woman, Rice....think of ways to "smoothly" introduce your desires, without making them seem so "out there." ;-) We women have "moves" that you men are oblivious to.
As far as the "Carnal Knowledge" statement.....what is so weird about that one? I didn't see the movie (it's one that I will make a point to)...but was he being sarcastic? Just for the record, I say that sometimes.... ;-)
Yes, the scene in "Analyze This" definitely reveals the "Madonna/Whore Complex." How stupid is that logic? Maybe he shouldn't masturbate either, because those are the *hands* that touch his babes.... (**rolls eyes**).
Think about it, Rice.... You are dating a woman for a while and the two of you have been "physical." It is completely "normal" for you to desire having sex with her (and she, you ). Why would you want a woman who would "punish" you for being honest and expressing your innermost thoughts--particularly if they are thoughts about *her*? You do call the shots...you do have control over your own life. If you want a woman who would not be so taken aback from such a statement....you have to take that risk. You may go through a lot of women, but at least you'll be left with the "right" kind of woman for you. You see? In some sense, we create our own destinies.
Hope that helps... ;-)
It's interesting that you said that you might have been thinking the same thing, because I would have never expected that. As much difficulty as I have now believing that women have sexual thoughts about men, it never would have occurred to me that such a thing was even possible when I was single, and much younger.
The story about the barbeque reminded me of something else I read a long time ago. It was humorous story about a group who held a 'wife-tasting party'. After finishing the meal at a dinner party the men went into the living room while the women gathered in the dining room. The women took off their underwear and sat on the table with their skirts pulled up. The men were then led in one at a time, blindfolded, and proceeded to 'taste' each of the wives. The objective was to see how many of the men could identify their wife from her 'taste'. Maybe you and your friends could have played that game at the barbeque, LOL.
It's also interesting that you didn't think the Jack Nicholson quote was funny. Most men would have thought a man saying that after having sex was hilarious. I guess women have a different perspective on something like that.
ha ha ha.... it wouldn't be fair, unless they drank water between each "meal." ;-)
I didn't take the quote as humourous because you preceded it with this:
"I just could see so may downsides to saying something like that and little, if any, upside. There was another line that I also never got to use, but this was mainly because I never thought of it at the appropriate time. It's what Jack Nicholson said to Ann Margret in 'Carnal Knowledge' when, after a very energetic love-making session, as they lay in the bed, sweaty and out of breath, he said to her “I almost came that time.”"
You were being quite serious. You were talking about downsides and never getting to say things at the "appropriate times" which led me to believe that you never got to "almost come" (assuming you always come as most men do). Looking at the scene from a different perspective (sarcasm), it is quite hillarious (particuarly since Jack said it). It's hard in this medium to decipher what exactly the author wants to portray. I will rent that movie sooner than had planned...particuarly since I like Nicholson (and you often quote it in your posts). When I watch it, I'm going to be going "aha....makes sense now..." ;-)
Edited 4/12/2007 6:11 am ET by rain_dancer_iam
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From teh photos I've see of TOny, NO he is NOT sexy!
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