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Wed, 06-15-2005 - 8:45pm
I just lost my virginity, and unfortunetly things did not work out with the guy. my question is this, I am attracted to a guy friend of mine and want to have sex with him, I am questioning if this is right though. I don't love him, but is that truly a requirement for sex?
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In reply to: crzylife05
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 8:48pm

That is a choice only you can make.


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In reply to: crzylife05
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 8:56pm

You do what feels right for you.

There is no right or wrong answer to this question. You're the one that has to live with the consequences and the decisions you make about with whom, and why you choose to have sex.

Many religious or people with conservative views would say that it's a matter of morals. That you should only have sex with someone if you love them. For many religions it goes further than that. Loving someone isn't enough, they say that you should be married before you have sex. Other people believe that sex is something physical that can easily be shared amongst people and love is not a requirement.

At the end of the day it's up to you. If you feel comfortable having sex with someone that you do not love, then that's fine. If you'd prefer to wait until you find someone that you love, then that also is fine.

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In reply to: crzylife05
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 11:18pm
For ME, it is, but for you, it may not be. As adults, we each get to decide the standards we'll live by and the requirements and boundaries for our individual sex lives.