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Sun, 06-12-2005 - 6:18pm

Hi. Is it bad to have sex when u are not lubricated??

Two days ago i had sex with my b/f but i feel that I was not lubricated enough. Now i have little pain down there Not much but It feels wierd. Is this because I wasnt lubricated enough and is it normal??




Edited 6/12/2005 6:24 pm ET ET by swtgurl2005
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Sun, 06-12-2005 - 6:54pm

It's not normal to have pain after intercourse.


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Sun, 06-12-2005 - 10:41pm

It's not really bad as such. It can just be very uncomfortable and even painful. You've probably chaffed something or gotten some tiny, tiny little tears in your vagina because his penis was rubbing instead of sliding. It sounds like you'll heal up just fine over a few more days time.

It sounds like it's the normal sort of discomfort you'd have after having sex and not being lubricated enough. Get some KY liquid or something from the Supermarket or Drugstore for times when you're not lubricated (or spend more time on the foreplay).

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Mon, 06-13-2005 - 3:35pm

Well, it's not a GOOD thing. Yes, it happens sometimes, but ideally, you should try and prevent it by using KY or some other lubricant.

But you have to speak up when you aren't enjoying what's happening so that you can make adjustments, too. Don't just suffer in silence.

Every time you have dry sex, it can be uncomfortable, even painful, AND you are likely opening little tears and abrasions in the vaginal tissue which can lead to other problems....like infections, ulcerations, etc.

IF you aren't wet enough to facilitate penetration, just dab on some lube OR saliva which works in a pinch.




Edited 6/13/2005 3:41 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Mon, 06-13-2005 - 3:45pm
Pretty normal -- sometimes in the throes of passion you just go a bit far when you're not perfectly lubricated. Many will say to use lube but I have never favored it -- some of them are yucky -- saliva is better in most cases. There have definitely been situations where I have been walking funny the next morning. Hardly the end of the world but sometimes a little bit painful.
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Mon, 06-13-2005 - 7:08pm
Thank you everyone for your replies! Its cause the thing is that sometimes we start having sex without foreplay and thats what happened the last time. I feel perfectly normal now so i guess the problem went away. Thanks!