Question 4 men

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Question 4 men
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Sat, 11-11-2006 - 8:30pm
Men,
What makes sex good for you vs. bad for you?
Is there anything that totally turns you off when you have sex with a woman?
Just curious!
Fun2b
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Registered: 10-28-2006
In reply to: fun2bhere
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 10:35pm
hmmmmmmm..... I cant say there is ANYTHING that turns me off about DW sexually. She is absolutely awesome! I cant imagine being 37 and married for 7 years and STILL having sex once to twice DAILY!! We might skip one day a month and that is because of ME. She pursues me daily and I feel like a king because of her. About the only thing I can say that COULD get me out of the mood with her are those nights (very few and far between) that she is not feeling good for whatever reason but still feels the need to take care of me. I have a hard time making love if she is not going to get any satisfaction out of it too.. (I mean orgasm)
If it is that time of the month and she is flowing too heavy to feel attractive, that is one thing... I dont seem to mind then... but if she is too tired or head is pounding too much to push herself over the edge... then there are some times that I feel guilty EVEN THOUGH she is the one insisting.. Am I weird or what???? LOL
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In reply to: fun2bhere
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 11:04pm

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No, not at all. You sound great! Where are all the men like you!!??
She is a lucky woman!
F2b

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In reply to: fun2bhere
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 11:57pm

Well, a lot of it depends on the time and place I suppose. And then there are all those things that happen that you'd had never thought of until they happen....

But I guess the big ones for me would be farting. Might as well throw a bucket of ice water over me as fart....

Lack of interest or enthusiasm and being too self-concious is a turnoff. It's always much more fun if the other person is enjoying themselves. So if you act like you're bored, aren't interested, just want to lie there limp like a starfish, or try to hide your wobbly bits and want the lights off and covers up then I'm not going to enjoy it much either. You don't have to be some karma sutra expert and know all the moves, you just have to show an interest and be willing to try a few things. And as for the wobbly bits - I know that you have them and I still get turned on by you and want sex with you. Being selfconcious and hiding them isn't going to make them go away. It's just going to make everyone feel awkward.

For me, your period is a bit of a turn-off. Well, not so much a turn-off as something that I just don't want to get too involved with when you've got it. It never used to worry me much but after a couple of messy experiences over the years I kinda went off the idea. I'm not worried or upset about it, just don't want to go there.

Pubic hair - personally I'm big on a groomed pubic area. Your experiences with other men may vary. Every guy likes something a bit different, but me, I like a good trim.

There are others, but I thought that I finish with this one - baby talk. I HATE baby talk! LOL!

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In reply to: fun2bhere
Sun, 11-12-2006 - 12:17pm
There's an old saying: "There's no such thing as BAD sex! There's sex, there's good sex and there's better sex."
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Registered: 11-29-2006
In reply to: fun2bhere
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 9:29am
I just don't want to hear about the good deal you got at a sale today. Or dicuss the reasons that chores on my "HONEY DO" list aren't getting done.
Seriosly; I get bothered when I have to be the one to initiate the act. I don't ALWAYS want to be the the one in charge.
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Registered: 06-24-2004
In reply to: fun2bhere
Sun, 12-03-2006 - 8:43pm

There's an old saying: "There's no such thing as BAD sex! There's sex, there's good sex and there's better sex."

I agree, but to narrow it down a little more for you. I just want you to enjoy it but be honest ie no fate "O's"

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Registered: 01-11-2004
In reply to: fun2bhere
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 9:27pm

Hi fun:

Good: We are in harmony together; our bodies are as one.

Bad: Something said about work, parents, etc during sex.

Mac

 

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Registered: 11-06-2006
In reply to: fun2bhere
Fri, 12-08-2006 - 3:43pm

What makes it bad, either of us not really being in the moment.

What makes it good, her being enthused about it.

What makes it great, her embracing the sheer power of her sexuality and milking it for all it's worth. I swear I'd sweep every night if described in graphic detail to me how hot she got watching me do it! ;-)