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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2005
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 12:54am

I just have a silly question.

About three years ago, my boyfriend and I were fooling around. He started basically fingering me and ended up cutting me inside.

I hemorraghed and ended up needing six stitches on the outter walls of my vagina. My question:

Can getting stitches down there lessen my sensitivity and is that why it's extremely hard for me to have an orgasm? My boyfriend is great and everything is great, time frame and everything. It just seems like I have to work so hard and then chances are, I don't even have one, then he's frustrated, and I'm frustrated. We've tried foreplay, not with accessories. Anyone who can help?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: whatsluv
Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:28am

There are very few nerve endings to produce "feeling" inside your vagina, with the exception of the "g" spot. MOST women (about 80%) don't have orgasms from intercourse alone. Your real sexual organ is your clitoris. Either you, or he or your position should be stimulating your clitoris during intercourse to bring on the orgasms.

Try "woman on" top which can give you good clitoral stimulation from rubbing against his pubic bone, and even some "g" spot action if you get the angle right.

After reading your other post....you probably also have some inhibitions given you by your ex. Try to relax and enjoy it and don't make having orgasms a "goal". Just enjoy what you're doing, and the orgasms will come. You don't have to have orgasms to enjoy sex. If you learn to relax and enjoy sex, you'll have orgasms.