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| Tue, 07-27-2004 - 10:27pm |
the other night when we me and my bf were making love, i was on top (something i dont do often) and while i was doing my thing he put his fingers in the anal area.
i was really weirded out at first, actually really freaked out and grossed out all in one..i thought that was something only for gay men? i have noticed to that more and more he has tried to have anal sex but of course i have refused because like i said, it freaks me out.
i dont know what caused him to do this and why he did it..it didnt feel at all pleasureable so i am questioning the point of anal sex also.
never tried it, but if he does it again i wouldnt mind giving it a try for him and for myself to see what its like, but how do it get over the intial shock of "is this right?"
i was really weirded out at first, actually really freaked out and grossed out all in one..i thought that was something only for gay men? i have noticed to that more and more he has tried to have anal sex but of course i have refused because like i said, it freaks me out.
i dont know what caused him to do this and why he did it..it didnt feel at all pleasureable so i am questioning the point of anal sex also.
never tried it, but if he does it again i wouldnt mind giving it a try for him and for myself to see what its like, but how do it get over the intial shock of "is this right?"
do alot of guys do this while the women is on top?
thnx!

There's another post here about anal sex; you should have a look at it. But briefly if you think that you will try it you need to consider a few things:
Relax and take charge. Get comfortable and if you decide to have him try to enter you from behind in a doggie style position talk about it before you try and make sure that he will follow any directions that you give him to the letter. You should be the one pushing back onto his penis as he stays still. That way you can control the penetration. You don't want him pushing in even a tiny bit if you have asked him to stop.
Get some lubricant too - buy a little bottle of it and use plenty. Get him to wear a condom. Finally, relax some more and take it very, very slowly and carefully. It'll feel very strange at first and your body will need time to relax and to get used to having him 'in there'.
You don't have to be weirded out or disgusted, but if the idea doesn't appeal to you, then just tell him not to do it. And if it doesn't sound appealing to you, don't try anal sex just to please him. If you're not really "into" it, you'll be too uptight, and it will be painful.
Just because he might want to do it, that doesn't mean you have to. You shouldn't do anything you don't enjoy doing, just to please him.
No, I don't think so. If you don't like what he's doing with his fingers, just ask him to stop. It's not a big deal. He probably just thought that you'd like it. As jo said, it's got nothing to do with being gay either. If it was, you'd have to be worried about oral sex because that's something that lesbians do!
i've never tried anal sex, but since some women LOVE it, i figure why not try- cuz it might blow me away...but i'm not ready yet, so right now we'll stick with the fingers from time to time until i'm ready!
but NO- nothing to worry about...if you are willing to keep exploring, just go with it relax and enjoy, you may find that you reallllllly like it!
Nothing to worry about at all. Lots of straight men and women love anal sex, and some people don't much enjoy it. Its just another variation, and if done correctly, poses no health risks. There are a number of posts here about anal, and many of them contain lots of great advice. Ultimately, the advice boils down to:
1) Use LOTS of lube. You really can't use too much.
2) Start with something small - like a finger. Don't go bigger until the
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