Question about big guys (weight)
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| Sun, 08-28-2005 - 5:15pm |
Me and this guy recently hooked up, not much more to it. But size is an issue I guess in a few ways. He is somewhere between maybe 6'8-6'10 my guess, but he is also a bit heavy, not morbid, but beyond just a little overweight. (Im 5'4 and only slightly overweight) So to my question...Not sure if all of the above is relevant to it or not.
Well...I went down on him and noticed a few things that were really new to me. Number 1, wheres his testicles? Ok, I know where, but all you see is an area of skin that you can tell is it, but its flat with his body. Im assuming because of his weight?? I didnt mess with the area much...not sure exactly how I should go about it. Any tips out there? Ok, then there is his penis. I think he has a loose circ or something...I feel dumb for not clearly knowing, but the head wasnt covered, yet lots of loose skin otherwise, but there wasnt any ridge arount the head either, just smoothed right in. (It was really dark in the room) I guess it dont matter...just curious what it would be considered to be. He was also on the small side (surprisingly) but I have learned in one event, that size really doesnt matter as long as he knows what to do with it. :)
So really I guess im just wondering if there is anything particular I could do different to makes things even better for him. Im a bit puzzled with it all, first time I even been with a larger person, and also with a penis like that.....I think all turned out pretty darn good for first time together, but want to make sure he is getting all he needs too. (Not that he seemed he didnt) Positions didnt seem troubling, that surprised me, but im pretty flexible.
Edited to add: I also noticed that he kept putting pressure near the base of his penis, so I incorperated it with what I was doing and he didnt reach down there again. But what does that do anyways?
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Edited 8/28/2005 5:37 pm ET ET by goddess_dark_angel

He is the sweetset man. But I can say the diffrence in fat and skinney men are touches, huggs and there mouth. penises look smaller ..
I dont know why. but as you said, about the fat. Well, as he got larger with this newer job, it started disapearing in his fat. But its there. So he feels bad. And makes up a lot with hands , toys and mouth. I have never had a kiss that way in my life. And the bigger the man, at times they get tired easy.More fat, the heavyness around there heart. Out of breath? Bendning?
So we got in to the anal thing. He hasnt been with any one in 5 years. All females in his life never would go there and let him go there. So as you lick and play with there balls. Yes you wonder were is it all, under the fat. But between his legs, and try to play with his ass. I feel bad for a while cuzz its like I have to find what fold is his crack. If its dark yes its worse. They try and suck it in but cant. or Work with it.And if he is a great man.. Fat wont matter.
I get him on his stomach and play with his back ,, neck and ass.. so its who he is. THE fat at times will fall away and you wont notice it any more.
Good luck
Okay, so I've kinda had a similar experience.
My guy that I see occasionally is a little bit overweight, but not bad. And on the smaller side penis wise (and I like it that way). The first time we were together I was also very perplexed at his apparent lack of testicles. Just that patch of skin. And I asked around on here and someone said that sometimes when someone is severely nervous the testicles can pull up into the body. I think this was the case because I know how nervous he was and I found out the next few times I saw him that it wasn't like that. He actually has quite large testicles. So I'm assuming it was the nerves. Maybe this is the case for your guy too? First time together and all?
Edited 8/28/2005 10:12 pm ET ET by supermariogirl
>> but all you see is an area of skin that you can tell is it, but its flat with his body. Im assuming because of his weight??<<
I couldn't say for sure, but I suppose it's possible. When a guy is cold, nervous or about to orgasm, their testicles sort-of pull up close to their body (there are little muscles and cords attached to them that do it) and the scrotum can look really empty and flat like you describe. It's also possible that the extra fat in the area has padded out around his scrotum. Filled in the gaps, if you like, and made it look flat. I'm not sure.
>>I think he has a loose circ or something...<<
You mean uncircumcized? Usually when it's erect the "hood" or sleeve of loose skin naturally slides back over the head and rests along the shaft. That would probably be the extra loose skin that you were talking about. When he's not fully erect the skin will probably naturally roll back over the head. You should be able to slide this skin back and forth along the shaft and it will move over the head as you do it. Think of it like having an 80's legwarmer on your arm and over your hand with just your finger tips peeking out. If you use the other hand you can slide the legwarmer back up your arm to uncover you hand - it's a little bit like that.
>>but there wasnt any ridge arount the head either, just smoothed right in.<<
Hard to say. He's either naturally like that, or it's possible that he wasn't fully erect and the ridge wasn't showing like it normally does. I wouldn't think that it's anything to worry about if it all seems to be doing the job.
>>I also noticed that he kept putting pressure near the base of his penis, <<
Couple of possibilities: One, he was kinda stretching the loose skin along his penis tight to increase the sensation for him. Two, he was pressing against the pubic bone to basically squish the fat pad down make his penis a little longer.
i'm not sure about the flat testicles or loose skin around the penis. it sounds to me like a birth defect or maybe a circumcision that couldn't be followed through with when he was a baby. it could also be that maybe he had a fluctuation in weight, going from overweight to normal weight, and then back to overweight again. My ex was a big guy (6'4" and 280+ pounds at one point), and he looked normal down there. He had a penis that was actually too big for me and no loose skin, and I could clearly see his testicles, so I really don't think his appearance down there is because of weight, but I guess all things are possible.
what the guy is doing when he squeezes his penis at the base is making the sex feel tighter. Since he has a small penis, he probably doesn't feel a woman's vagina very well, so he helps himself out, so to speak. also squeezing it at the base can make the rest of the penis feel bigger to the woman as all the "meat" gets bunched together near the top.
i don't think there's anything wrong with the tip of his penis; some guys have the so-called "mushroom heads," lol, and some just don't.
i hope this answers your questions. :)