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Question about dating and sex
| Fri, 11-19-2004 - 11:46am |
Hello everyone! Im just curious because Im new to the dating world all over again. When you are dating, is it right to date a bunch of guys at one time? Dating doesnt mean you are obligated to have sex with them right? I am 28 and I just got out of an 8 year relationship and Im confused. Please respond all! Thanks

It is fine to date as many people as you want to date as long as one partner is not confused and thinks there is an unspoken agreement that it's exclusive.
You can date a different man every night of the week, if that's what you want to do. There's no right or wrong......it's what you're comfortable doing.
Dating doesn't mean having sex. You can have sex if you want to, or not if you don't want to. YOU are the one making the rules, and they can be whatever you want them to be.
With all the STD's out there, you don't want to be sleeping with every guy you go out with....because even condoms don't protect you from everything. Get to know someone well before you get involved sexually, and make sure you're both on the same page with exclusivity, etc.
It seems that the answer to your question depends on where you live
Where I come from, you only date one man at a time. Once you've gotten over the hurdle of the first date or two and decide to go back for more, then it's generally accepted that he is the only one you are seeing.
If you do wish to date others, it would need a specific conversation to make him aware of your intentions. And while me may jump at the chance to date other women (a player) he may well choose to leave you because of it.
Read the 'about being exclusive' thread that aisha started. It should be just a bit lower on the list.
Personally I would be a bit wary of any woman that was dating several guys at the same time, or even going on a first date with me and admitting that she was dating someone-else. I'm not entirely sure why I'd feel uncomfortable, but I would. I'm very much a date-one-person-at-a-time kinda guy.