Question about possible abuse??

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Question about possible abuse??
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Fri, 05-07-2004 - 2:08pm
Hi. I don't know if this is the right board to ask this question, but thought I'd give it a try. If there is a better board, please let me know. My question is - I feel like I may be being a bit abused, but not sure. This is a little embarrasing, but my husband (when we don't have the kids with us) wants and expects me to cook dinner topless, serve dinner topless and eat dinner topless at the table. In the beginning, I took this as just another one of his little kinky ways and I eagerly joined in. But sometimes I don't want to do this and he is becoming quite demanding about it. I know this is so weird, but I just wanted to here if anyone else has something like this they live with. Am I being silly about this? Should I just do it because obviously he enjoys it and what the heck. I don't hate it. I'm just starting to feel a little abused by it. Any comments would be helpful.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 2:21pm
Nope, I'm a California girl - born and raised.
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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 2:23pm
Good point Tish. I had not looked at limitations like that. Hey, What I think and feel for me doesn't apply for everyone obviously. But then again, limitations don't apply to everyone either. Hey, I am happy where I am. You are happy where you are. We respect that about each other. It is all good. I think T is more shelttered in childhood. I don't think she is from any other country than the US, just from some of the things she has mentioned, but again, I could be wrong. T, what country are you from??? I will repeat Bubbles question. LOL Thanks bubbles for the definition of my jest there. It was cute.
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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 2:25pm
CA forever baby. Me too, but unfortunately now I live all the way across the country in the belt buckle of the bible belt. VIRGINIA. All my family still live there in Northern Ca though, so I get a chance to go home every once in a while, and climb those beautiful Redwood trees.
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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 2:29pm
I love Northern Cali ... we go on get-a-ways as often as we can up there, it's one of our favorite places! Not quite up to the Redwood area, but on the way! We're in So Cali. I've been to Virginia and it's beautiful back there! How often do you get back to Cali?
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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 2:42pm
OOOOhhh! Now I understand.

taoist
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Registered: 04-23-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 3:10pm
"R is not going to buy coke from a questionable source."

Maybe now I'm the one being naive, but I would think that ANYONE from whom one purchases illicit drugs would be a questionable source....

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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 3:19pm
Once again Westie....NO ONE told her that she should feel abused! SHE said she felt abused! And she's ASKING for opinions about her situation. Well, that's what she got.

Take a look at her initial post again to clarify all that for yourself. These are HER words and HER feelings, no one elses'.


Edited 5/12/2004 3:21 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 4:34pm
Nope, don't do drugs.



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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 4:36pm
Tiana, if you are putting coke "down there"(which BTW, you can use correct terminology) or on his penis you WILL get high from it. Your vagina has mucous membranes and you can absorb the coke through it. If it's on his penis, you WILL get high if you have vaginal, oral, or anal sex with him. If you are using just your hands, I am not sure if you would absorb that much. I am not sure how much your DH will absorb since you haven't said what type of sexual activity you are engaging in, and I don't want to know lol. I doubt you will take my post seriously, but do know that you're kidding yourself if you think you aren't getting high.

Leticia

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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 4:39pm
I have never even SEEN cocaine except in the movies. And that was not real cocaine. I would never use cocaine in any way. Just finding it and trying to buy it is a felony isn't it?

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