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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 9:18pm

Anybody ever have a week where sex is just impossible because of mix-matched libidos or sheer exhaustion?

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Sun, 03-13-2005 - 8:29pm

That's one thing that terrifies me right to the core...I'm so afraid that after the baby is born, DH will see me in a different light and won't want to make love to me anymore. I'm afraid he'll wind up seeing me as someone's mother only and not his wife, his partner, his lover. I know it sounds silly, but its something that worries..Is this a common concern?..

Right now, I have to be good and finish studying that chapter on insurance for my CNA class tomorrow

Tootles!
Jennie

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Sun, 03-13-2005 - 11:13pm
THAT'S the fun part though. You get to spoil them and then send them home! LOL!
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 5:07am

>>I'm afraid he'll wind up seeing me as someone's mother only and not his wife, his partner, his lover. I know it sounds silly, but its something that worries..Is this a common concern?<<

I can't speak for others. However, the thought didn't ever cross my mind. DH got straight back into the saddle when we were allowed to start again. Mind you, he's not the type of guy who would spend time considering that type of stuff.

Why do you worry that he may feel this way? Has he ever given you reason to suspect that he might?




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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 6:48am

Jennie, I think you're letting your imagination run away with you.


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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 3:00pm

To Kat-Oh, no. He's never indicated anything that would even hint that he would think this. He said he was afraid that now I was pregnant and after the baby is born, I won't want anything to do with him because I have the baby and I won't need him..Wrong-o. I told him so.

Tish, you're right. I do tend to let my imagination run away with me from time to time. I always hear every one around me telling me that everything's going to be different..That sex will be the furthest thing from my mind..That I won't have time for anything anymore..I know how I am..I once told DH that after the baby was born, to shoo everyone out the door and shut and lock it..*laughs* I know that I won't be in any shape to make love to him, but we can compensate..We can find ways..

I'm exhausted right now...I had an 8 a.m. class w/o little sleep thanks to those damn neighbors again..Gonna take a little nap. Thanks!

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 6:42pm

A week? HEck, we've gone 2-3 weeks before ... between AF being here, working late, being sick, etc.


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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 7:47pm

Shoot, I have 3 grandsons and that's not an issue here. I mean, I love them, they are the sweetest and a joy. But I'm not raising them.

My boys would spend a night occasionally with my mom and she loved having them. But they didn't affect her life a great deal other than emotionally - her life came first, she had no hesitation about saying "Sorry, but I have plans that night" and I for one, cheered her on in that. She should not be expected to give up *anything* for *my* kids, especially free time.

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 7:51pm

No, it was never a worry of mine and I doubt it crossed DH's mind either. It certainly didn't stop him from wanting to have sex 3 weeks postpartum...lol.

You have to make up YOUR mind that you won't only be a mother. It's not an easy balance and in the beginning, the baby overwhelms you and it's inevitable that most of your focus will be on him/her for awhile. Just don't forget that you're a wife and a sexy woman too. If you think that, so will he.

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 11:15pm
Absolutely, Tally! Grandparent's have already done their job as parents so that their children can raise their own! Grandparents should not automatically be expected to be a 24/7 babysitting service.
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 11:30pm
So have we, for various reasons through the years. It's not impossible, not what you'd CHOOSE, of course, but it's bound to happen so you learn to roll with it.

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