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Question for the ladies.
| Tue, 03-07-2006 - 7:43pm |
How do you feel about going down on your man??
It came up last night w/ my girlfriends. One claimed that she has never gone down a guy, ever and never will because she finds it repulsive. My other friend says she does it if she "has to" but won't unless her bf really wants it.
Let the discussion rolllll.

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I have to be frank about this - I love it!
I gives me pleasure doing it, I know it gives DH pleasure receiving it. For me it's one of the most intimate, special sex acts because I personally have to be really into a guy before I'll want to do it, no matter how much I love it. (This was before DH, now it's just for him LOL)
I always hated it when guys - sigh, always the young, inexperienced ones - put their hands on the back of my head. Found ways to deal with that quickly enough, though ;)
Eva
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I never felt that it was disgusting or gross, I always enjoyed doing it even from the very first time with my first boyfriend(maybe because it was something that was always done to me as well). But one thing: I did feel that it was degrading to just service a guy and give him oral sex knowing that that's all that was going to take place and there was no relationship. It was something that was drilled into my head as being s luttish. And most of the time that's exactly the way any of the girls who did that felt. Because not only did the guys not reciprocate, but they never saw them again. I never had a guy suggest or ask me to do it on a date, and I certainly never made the move to do it.
I can go from not being aroused, to being totally aroused just from giving oral or even thinking about it, and the same for my husband. We actually enjoy intermittently alternating between oral and intercourse because it's that arousing and enjoyable. It's such an intimate, highly sensory-excitable act. It stimulates so many of the senses all at once. Even during intercourse, I often fantasize about giving him oral at the same time, and it puts me right over the edge. I often think that I have an oral fixation...;-)
I KNEW that someone was going to raise the precum card after what I was saying! LOL! :-)
Yep. Precum. Never had much of it myself, but I understand some guys have a lot.
Still, being trapped between hot sweaty thighs with lots of moisture and no air is a traumatic experience in itself. Despite that, I still LOVE going down. You CAN triumph over adversity!
West.....
What about a man's sweaty testicles and penis? When the penis is flaccid, it leans against the hairy testicles which causes it to get sweaty as well. The underside of the testicles and the part of the body that they rest on are sweaty and highly musky. And depending on the position that you're in, he could be straddling your face, you can also get somewhat smothered down there. ;-)
Also, although I have only been with one man who was uncut(it was eons ago and I was inexperienced), doesn't an uncut man have lubrication and moisture underneath the sheath very similar to a woman? So, in that case, it's wouldn't be just plain skin that she's dealing with, it's much more complicated than that. And let's not forget that if a man thrusts by either pushing himself into your mouth, or pushing on your head, you can gag which causes you to temporarily lose your breath and gives the feeling of "choking."
Plenty of adversity, for sure....Oh....what we do for the one's we love, eh? tee hee
In response to your statement about the situation with an uncircumcised penis, I am uncircumcized and I don't have any additional lubrication from the skin. The only moisture/lubrication that I know of is from precum. That is just my personal experience but I also do not believe that any uncircumcised male would have any additional lubrication as the foreskin is just ordinary skin.
Yes, when a man goes from flaccid to erect, it can gag you as it grows, too.
But the schweddy balls,(ha-I'm thinking of Alec Baldwin on SNL right now), thighs, etc. are also difficult to deal with, particularly, if you are upside down lying on your back and he's standing with his balls either covering your nose or your eyes! OMG, I've become so claustrophobic in that position, we don't do it anymore! LOL!
We ALL deal with some minor issues when providing oral though...not just the guys, Westie!
>>What about a man's sweaty testicles and penis?<<
And the female groin and vulva doesn't get sweaty too? :-)
>>doesn't an uncut man have lubrication and moisture underneath the sheath very similar to a woman?<<
Not in my experience. Yes, the skin on the glans and shaft underneath the foreskin is not like normal dry skin. Provided the guy keeps himself clean and washes regularly when you roll that foreskin back what tiny amount of moisture is there quickly dries out and you more or less just have dry skin (there is never the same amount of moisture there as a vagina has, more like just inside the labia; not dry, but not moist either.
It's a tough life for all of us ;-)
>>What about a man's sweaty testicles and penis?<<
"And the female groin and vulva doesn't get sweaty too? :-)"
Actually, I was countering your original point, which was that the female groin and vulva was sweaty. You said it as though it was only a female issue. ;-)
>>doesn't an uncut man have lubrication and moisture underneath the sheath very similar to a woman?<<
"Not in my experience. Yes, the skin on the glans and shaft underneath the foreskin is not like normal dry skin. Provided the guy keeps himself clean and washes regularly when you roll that foreskin back what tiny amount of moisture is there quickly dries out"
But, if she's going down on him there won't be any time for it to dry out--it will be moist.
"and you more or less just have dry skin (there is never the same amount of moisture there as a vagina has, more like just inside the labia; not dry, but not moist either."
I never meant to imply that it's as much lubrication that is inside a vagina, just that it's not dry--the inside of the labia is probably the best way to describe it.
"It's a tough life for all of us ;-)"
Then we agree....it's not just men. ;-)
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