Question on why men watch porn

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Question on why men watch porn
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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 4:23pm

I am a cl on another board and the subject of porn has been brought up.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 4:45pm

It sounds about right to me.

Bear in mind that I don't think that the men are thinking about having an emotional relationship with these women in the porn movies. They're not thinking about love and desire and how wonderful this woman is as a person. The fantasy is about physical sensations, visual appeal of the body parts, the sexual situation, lust, and the ability to control and choose exactly what happens in their heads so that they get the stimulation that they want at that moment in time.

There are very few men that don't realise that watching a porn movie and being turned on by a sexually attractive female in one of these movies isn't just a fantasy. We know what real life is about and we know and love our partners. But at the same time we can appreciate and imagine what sex with another woman can or might feel like in a fantasy situation of a porn movie. I know plenty of women that think that some celebrities are "hot". It's basically the same.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 5:38pm
I have always felt that porn was okay for men to watch.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 7:28pm

I don't think that it's perhaps as clear cut as you think that it is.

I know that when I watch porn I get turned on by attractive women (and it helps a lot if the men are attractive too) having sex. Yes, I can "imagine" myself having sex with these women. I imagine that it is my penis and body parts that is involved and that I'm doing these things to these women. For example, while watching intercourse on screen I might imagine that it is my penis penetrating that woman that is lying on the bed in front of me. If I see an actress that I find particularly attractive I might imagine doing other things with her, things that aren't shown in that actual video - a full-on fantasy I guess that you'd say. Creating situations that have no link to real life. So Yes, I (and I suppose other men) can specifically picture themselves with another woman.

And Yes, the voyeuristic observing the couples having sex turns me on too. I enjoy watching a good looking couple having sex and appreciating the two good looking bodies doing whatever they are doing even if I don't actually picture myself with the woman. It's sort-of a blend of first-person and third-person positions. Or jumping back and forth between the two views I suppose.

And thirdly sometimes it is a weird blend of imagining myself and my partner mimicing the action on screen too. Often I *don't* pay much attention to the actual actresses and actors.

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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 10:31am
Isn't that what women watch porn and read erotica for, as well? It's about fantasy and selfish pleasure, no matter who is viewing or reading it.
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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 11:23am
I guess that is true.
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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 11:59am
Why do women read romance novels?
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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 12:02pm
I don't read romance novels.
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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 12:27pm

Well, my DH and I do not use porn but we do read erotic literature to one another and I think it's a little different in that you have to use your imagination to mentally visualize what's happening. Porn is lazy, IMO.

But I don't think that all men or women visualize themselves as or with the actresses in porn. I would imagine just SEEING sexual activity causes arousal....which is the whole point of porn.

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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 12:31pm

I never read them either. And romance isn't porn, Wary.

These novels, as it's been explained to me, is about creating a story, which may or may not include sexual scenarios, and which does not necessarily elicit arousal. Porn is about graphic sex and arousal, that's all.

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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 12:40pm
And of course, I'm talking about romantic novels being written from a FEMALE perspective for a female audience, which were the only way a woman could find that until just fairly recently. They served a purpose for many women who were turned off by the graphic sex and narrowly focused point of view of mainstream porn.

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