To quick to finish?

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Registered: 06-24-2003
To quick to finish?
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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 1:10pm

I don't know how to really ask this so I will just phrase it as appropriately as I can...

When my partner and I(male/female relationship) are together, we have lots of four play and that sort of stuff, but when we begin intercourse he is very quick to finish. Unfortunately it is making him very angry. Is there anything we can do? Tried stopping/brief break and different "boring" less stimulating positions but... He says he's never had this problem with other girls. Plus we don't see each other that often.

Help
Thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:15pm

Ok, the foreplay has nothing to do with anything. That's basically for your benefit. When you get to intercourse, you should be satisfied enough by that time to not mind that he's so quick. The fact that he IS isn't your fault, you have nothing to do with how fast he is.....it's all up to him. The fact that he doesn't see you often might have some bearing on it....he's "excited"! Whatever is causing it, it's not you, it's him, and HE needs to learn to control himself better, which he CAN learn to do. Whatever his problem is, it's his problem, and he isn't going to solve anything by getting angry, or trying to put the blame on you......because it never happened with any other female!

It's basically a "self fulfilling prophecy"....he's so worried that it will happen, that it DOES happen. He needs to lighten up on himself, too.

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Registered: 03-30-2000
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:47pm
You might try going ahead and finishing him off once during your foreplay, then get him worked up again for a second round while he continues to play with you. He should last longer on seconds.
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Registered: 10-01-2006
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 6:21pm
If he's not having regular sex it will probably be harder for him to delay ejaculating. Does he masturbate regularly? Get him to masturbate and ejaculate right before seeing you. Or, you could make him come through oral sex and then have sex for his second round. He should last longer the second time.
Other than that, it's really just about practise. He can practise when he's by himself- it is possible for him to train his mind.