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| Sat, 10-30-2004 - 11:27am |
I'm 25 years old and I've been doing to bar scene with my friend every few months. I've never had a one night stand or anything. She's a little older than me and quite experienced at everything. I've had opportunities for one night stands or "quickies" at the bar, but haven't gotten the nerve to do it yet. My friend told me I should do it when I'm comfortable. I don't think I could do the one night stand because I'd never get the courage to go home with someone I just met and spend the night. But I might go for a quickie if it feels right. My question is, how can you make it a "quickie" since women need quite a bit of foreplay to get "ready" for the acutal deed? Would it be weird to the guy if I had lube with me in my purse? I think it's one of those things where I'd want to slip off to a private place, do the deed, and get back with my friends. For some reason, it's just something I want to try. But I don't want to drag it out and make a long intimate experience. Just good guick sex! I'm too embarassed to ask my friend about this!
Thanks!

You might consider using condoms too - lubricated ones would help - if you are going to be having sex with a stranger.
If you're going to do this, make sure a friend in the bar knows you're leaving - so someone can look for you if you don't return in a reasonable amount of time. About 2 years ago, a local woman was found behind a bar, near the dumpsters, with her throat cut. She'd done the same thing, nipping out for a quickie, according to her friends. She told them she'd be back soon, and they saw her leave with a guy but no one knew who he was. To this day they haven't found him.
I'm also puzzled that the friend grew up in an early era and things were different - I agree with that but it's the here and now that is the issue, not what was going on 20 years ago, sexwise. And that holds true for anyone, regardless of age.