Reaching an orgasm

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2006
Reaching an orgasm
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 3:22pm
Well....it's official.....I'm finally devirginized and loving every minute of it!
Although, I'm noticing that I'm having a harder time trying to reach an orgasm
whether we're having vaginal sex or my partner is giving me pleasure with oral sex.
I'll be lucky if I can reach at least one orgasm......What do I do???
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2005
Wed, 11-08-2006 - 12:30am

The first thing you do is stop TRYING to have an orgasm. Learn to enjoy what you're doing and feeling, and not think about it. Thinking about it means you're not paying attention to what you're feeling, and what you're feeling is what makes orgasms happen.

80% of women don't have vaginal orgasms unless they're getting clitoral stimulation at the same time. There's virtually no feeling inside your vagina, with the exception of the "g" spot. Your clitoris is your real sexual organ, not your vagina. During intercourse, you, or he or your position should be stimulating your clitoris.

To learn more about your body, go to www.the-clitoris.com

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2005
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 10:32am
relax and enjoy it! IMO, the most important part of having sex is enjoying the body of who you are with along with letting them enjoy your body. In over my 29yr sexual life having a "goal" (aka orgasms) never played into the sexual experience. I didn't start having orgasms on a regular basis until my forties - so good luck!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2006
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 12:09pm

I'm with the other posters - just enjoy it! The more you try for the big "O" the more elusive it becomes.

Orgasms are no issue for me, they come easily and frequently, and I can only guess the majority of that is that I just don't try for them, I just enjoy what is going on.

But, CONGRATS!

 

 

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