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Ready to have SEX!! ; p
| Sat, 04-26-2008 - 5:29am |
So I'm ready to do it!! Thats right ladies, I'm ready to start having sex!! : P I thought about it for a long time and I finally decided that I don't so much want to 'give' my virginity to my boyfriend, I want to have sex for ME!! For the fun of it!
: P Now, yes, I care about my boyfriend a lot and I know he feels the same, but,I'm more about having sex because I know that once I get the 'hang of it,' it'll be pretty FUN. I'm not so much about the 'fairy tale' part of it at this age, i.e- I don't necessarily know if I'll be with this guy forever, which when I was younger, would've been what I wanted in order to have sex. I'm 22 now and I see things differently at this age. I'm crazy about him, even in love with him (shh, he doesn't know!) can I say that he is in love with me too? Not sure, but, see, I'm not having sex to find that out or to try and 'make' that happen, because I know that sex doesn't force things like love or falling hard for someone, and I've decided thats ok!! I want to do it BECAUSE I want to do it, it really has nothing to do with him!
: P (I suppose I will need his equipment though! : P) So I have some questions ladies. Does the first time always hurt? Is it a matter of just being really turned on so that it doesn't hurt? I want it to be fun!! What do I do so that he has fun doing it too? I've heard that any sex is good sex to a guy but I want it to be fun for both of us. Any tips/techniques? ; P Tips, Advice, Feedback, ALL would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks!! : ) ; )
: P Now, yes, I care about my boyfriend a lot and I know he feels the same, but,I'm more about having sex because I know that once I get the 'hang of it,' it'll be pretty FUN. I'm not so much about the 'fairy tale' part of it at this age, i.e- I don't necessarily know if I'll be with this guy forever, which when I was younger, would've been what I wanted in order to have sex. I'm 22 now and I see things differently at this age. I'm crazy about him, even in love with him (shh, he doesn't know!) can I say that he is in love with me too? Not sure, but, see, I'm not having sex to find that out or to try and 'make' that happen, because I know that sex doesn't force things like love or falling hard for someone, and I've decided thats ok!! I want to do it BECAUSE I want to do it, it really has nothing to do with him!
: P (I suppose I will need his equipment though! : P) So I have some questions ladies. Does the first time always hurt? Is it a matter of just being really turned on so that it doesn't hurt? I want it to be fun!! What do I do so that he has fun doing it too? I've heard that any sex is good sex to a guy but I want it to be fun for both of us. Any tips/techniques? ; P Tips, Advice, Feedback, ALL would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks!! : ) ; )

Hi! I was going to wait for Misty to come along and give all her wonderful answers but it seems she is sleeping in.
It was so long ago for me, my first time, over 30 years ago so all I can say is, I don't remember it hurting the first time. Some say it does, some say it doesn't, I think a lot of it is what is going on with you, if you are relaxed and the guy takes his time with you you will have a different experience than if it
Sex shouldn't EVER hurt........if it does, then you're doing it wrong.
Welcome to the board, gsusisking.
First time sex shouldn't hurt. If there is pain, it should only be from the hymen being torn. Chances of that at 22 is slim (most of the time, the hymen has already been broken during athletic activity, or if you've masturbated, perhaps during that.)
The other members have already given you some great advice. If you are aroused, spend time on foreplay, and make sure you're well lubricated, chances are, there won't be any pain. I think the first time, you're going to be so focused on the new sensations that you are feeling .... you're not really going to have time to think about yourself and him. If he's a virgin too, then it's also likely that he will cum very quickly with this new sensation. Regardless, try to get most of the pleasure during foreplay -- don't expect an orgasm for yourself during intercourse, and try to relax and enjoy all that you are experiencing.
Believe it or not ... confidence is what makes a woman a desirable lover more than anything else. Don't be shy about your body or expressing your feelings, or emotions as you're feeling them -- those are the things that he will remember.
Let us know how it goes!
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It's good to hear that everything went fairly well for you.
You're right about orgasms for women being different than for men. Unfortunately, the more you concentrate on having one, the less likely you often will be to actually have one. WOT is a great position to get the stimulation you need, and that's the position that many women end up having orgasms in.
Since this is all so new to you, if I were you, I would focus on getting in sync with my partner and enjoying all of the good things about having sex together. The more you get to know each others bodies, the more giving you are each to the other, the more likely the orgasm will just happen with time.
That is great! As far as how to make it better, lots of practice,LOL! Seriously just experiment and if something feels good, tell yourslef and your partner and try to repeat it later. Even after almost 30 years of having sex with my dh, we both still find new things practically every time and we share tht we like it both during and after.