Really Need Answers.....
Find a Conversation
Really Need Answers.....
| Fri, 07-09-2004 - 12:40pm |
I am now married and has been for 8 months now and before we got married she knew I mastrubates and I knew she did too.Here is the problem.Since we have been married I still mastrubates whenever I gets very horny after I have tried getting some loving from but not letting her know about it.Well one night I had tried making love to her because I had been very horny from thinking about her all day and thinking about what we did a couple days ago,But she told me that she didn't feel like it,so I told her ok because I respected her for that,then lay on back and tried going to sleep.I couldn't go to sleep,so I got up and went to the bathroom to releive myself and when I returned she asked me did I just go to do what I think you just did and I said yes.She then got mad and said that whenever she finds out that I have been doing that that it makes her feels like she isn't satifing me.I tried telling her it's not like that at all,That you satifies me all the time,I needed you tonight and you said that you didn't feel like it so I needed relief.She said that it still makes her feel that way and I had to promise that I would stop.She does it why can't I? We use to have sex alot before and alittle after we got married.Now it's maybe once a week if any.I have needs and feelings too.
My main question is: Are any you men going through this or Have you? Women? Do you feel that same way as she does about your husbands doing it solo when you aren't feeling up to making love to him?
My main question is: Are any you men going through this or Have you? Women? Do you feel that same way as she does about your husbands doing it solo when you aren't feeling up to making love to him?
PLEASE!! Help
Thanks
Howie_T

Leticia
I also wanted to let you know that when I am flat out to tired for sex, I really don't care if JT goes and relieves himself. That way I know I can get a sound night's sleep without being woken up earlier than normal for a quikie before I hit the pool. LOL I also try (sometimes - if I am not totally exhausted) to get him off with a hand job or will watch some porn with him while he masturbates. I do that so he knows I am not totally rejecting him, just not up for intercourse.
<>
I think you need to tell her that what's fair for the GANDER is fair for the goose. So, she'll either also need to refrain from masturbating as well OR better yet, allow you to take care of your own needs when necessary. In other words, she really needs to grow up.
Thanks for responding.
Howie_t
That if you would like to hear more about it.that way I can really go into the matter of the problem.
Howiet_2004@yahoo.com
Thanks
Howie_t
I don't think it matters if you do it once or 50 times.
I WISH my husband would go and do that once in awhile when I'm not up for it. To me, you are a very respectable and mannerly guy to respect her wishes like that. I mean, since she wasn't in the mood and you were, are you to just lay there the rest of the evening all horny because SHE is not in the mood? I don't get it. MAybe you should have lied and said no, honey, I didn't do that, I just used the restroom. I mean, sheesh! We all have our needs.
Sorry that happened. But I wouldn't feel badly about it at all if I were you. Not one bit.
Thanks once again
Howie_t