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really need some advice
| Sun, 06-27-2004 - 1:28am |
My boyfriend and i have been dating for seven months and i have tried to pleasure him but never seems to finish the feeling builds but always goes away i kind of think maybe i'm doing something wrong but he says that i'm not is there something i could try or maybe i am doing something wrong please give me some advice. Thanks

Some guys can't cum that way. Some take a long time. Some can't quite bring themselves to let go and relax enough to orgasm. I'm like that myself. I usually need to know that the girl is completely comfortable with me cumming in her mouth before I can relax enough to do it.
Sometimes the stimulation is really good but just doesn't QUITE hit the buttons. Or maybe everything is building up fine and then she changes her rhythm or something very slightly and that can be enough to delay my orgasm.
Main thing is, if he's saying that you're doing everything right he's enjoying it whether he cums or not.
What you CAN do is continue to do whatever you do, until you or he is tired, then you stop. If he has to finish himself, then that's what he has to do. Whether or not he "finished", he's STILL enjoying what you do. You don't have to ask him what's wrong, that just makes him more nervous. In the meantime, what is he doing for YOU? By concentrating on you instead of his problem, he'll be able to relax and forget about it, and eventually, he'll be comfortable enough with you to "let go". Until he does, don't pressure him about it. The more you ask, the harder it becomes for him.
Sara