A Reason to be Upset????
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A Reason to be Upset????
| Sun, 11-14-2004 - 3:54am |
Last night, the boyfriend and I had sex. Afterward, we turned on a movie, watched it, and then started getting heated again afterward. I felt too sore down there to have intercourse again, so I suggested we fool around .. I give him oral sex, then he gives it to me, or vice-versa. (This is also about 2 in the morning). I decided to go down on him first, asking him if he'd still be up to switching it around afterwards, and he said yes. After I was finished, I laid down next to him, and he curled up and went to sleep. He said nothing .. he didn't even just simply state that he was too tired.
Of course, I was upset, and a little ticked. I told him I was frustrated because we said that we'd fool around on each other. He even told me he'd be up to it afterward. Now, I can completely understand being too tired to fool around (believe me, I've been there), however he was awake enough to get things heated with me, and he was more than willing to recieve oral sex, but was too tired to give back, which was part of our little "deal".
My question is, ladies, would you be upset if your man did this in bed?

However, if this was standard behaviour that would be a different story.
Besides - something happened like this to me except I was the sleep-er and DH was the sleep-ee, lol. And while DH was no doubt disappointed - and I felt bad the next day when he told me what I'd done - he wasn't mad. That would have made me feel worse, and defensive to boot because I didn't even remember falling asleep.
After reading your second post.....I realized what your complaint is all about. Not last night.....but your general dissatisfaction with his sexual selfishness. My question to you is why do you let it happen? Have you told HIM how you feel? If so, what was his reaction?
The solution is very simple.....it's the old "ladies first" rule! Start with him if you feel like it, but don't finish him.....switch places, and get yours....THEN you finish him. Believe me....he'll react to that.
It's sad that simply discussing it can't fix it, but if it can't...then you have to take matters into your own hands.....if you're not part of the solution, then you're part of the problem.