Recently Lost My Virginity

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Recently Lost My Virginity
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Mon, 07-03-2006 - 1:08am
Hi everyone, I don't get to visit this board as often as I like but the times I have, I have found useful information. So, as someone who has very recently lost her virginity (about 3 weeks ago and by the way I am 25)I was wondering when sex starts to become more physically enjoyable. I realize that it is probably different for everyone. I'm not necessarily experiencing pain but more along the lines of very uncomfortable when he enters me and is inside me... more so when he first enters me... is this normal? Anyway, I would appreciate any knowledge or feedback anyone might could give me. Thanks in advance.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Mon, 07-03-2006 - 1:27am

More than likely the discomfort is because you're not getting enough foreplay, and because you're nervous. Nervousness prevents you from relaxing and producing lubrication. Without lubrication, it's going to be uncomfortable. There's so much more to sex than intercourse....and for most women, the foreplay is essential for pleasure, and even for orgasms. Your vagina isn't your main sexual organ, your clitoris is, and that's what your partner needs to focus on to get you relaxed and well lubricated.

No matter what your age, beginners are beginners, and until you do get more able to relax, you should use some sexual lubricant. That will make it MUCH more comfortable.

I have news for you......even if he weren't your first partner.....it takes time to relax with a new partner, and for him to learn what you like, and vice versa. Every new partner is a new learning experience.

For more understanding of your own body and your needs, and some ideas to make things better, check out www.the-clitoris.com

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Mon, 07-03-2006 - 7:13am
I would agree with the last post. More foreplay will get you more aroused, and playing with your clit, and even oral, can help you. You can use different lubes & oils to help have a smoother feeling.