rejection in bed

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Registered: 06-13-2007
rejection in bed
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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 5:59pm
I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half. Near the beginning of the relationship I noticed that he had only given me oral sex 1 time. When I questioned him about it he said that I had an odor. Upon further questioning he assured me that it was only the one time that he smelled it and that it was probably due to my period or something of that nature. Over the past months he has assured me that he has not noticed any bad smells etc., however, he still never goes down on me and is even reluctant to touch my vagina with his hand. I asked him about this again last night and once again it seems as though I smell. Although he can't seem to tell me what I smell like or what he thinks I should smell like. Let me be clear that he still has sex with me and receives oral sex on a very regular basis. He does not even ask for it, he just gets it. I have had my fair share of sexual partners and never received this complaint before. In fact it has always been quite the opposite, they can't seem to get enough. In all my years of sexual activity there have been no obvious or lasting changes in my hygeine techniques, discharge patterns or smell. Sure I go through normal monthly cycles like any woman but I am confident that I have a normal, healthy smelling vagina. Does anyone have any input? I just find it strange that I only seem to "smell" when I question him about his sexual generosity.

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Registered: 06-13-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 3:58pm

thanks tami-kins,

he is a good guy and i know that he cares, he just doesn't know how to express it. Thanks for the info on the chlorophyll tablets. I am going to look into that.

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Registered: 06-13-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 4:13pm
yeah, i feel the same way about him asking me to go to the doctor after he has read this thread but at the same time I don't want to start being a b****. i refuse to be that girl that uses sex as a weapon. i love sex and i love him so if for whatever reason he needs this reassurance i'll give it to him...on his dime. i'm hoping to get more detail on what exactly he smells, because "musky" as he described it seems normal to me. Everything i've read says that is a perfectly normal thing. you should only be worried if it smells fishy etc. etc. i have no signs of any problem such as vaginosis etc. to my knowledge, i have never even had a yeast infection and i'm sure i would know if i had. aarrghhh, i just keep getting more and more frustrated! i guess we will just see what happens, i'll keep you guys posted.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 5:08pm

Welcome to the board tryinghard55. I did notice you had posted before, but being on vacation, I'm a bit behind in welcoming new members.



Thanks for joining in the conversation. I hope you'll visit June Roll Call and let us get to know you a little bit better.



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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 5:12pm

I think it's great that he's reading this thread, I hope he continues to. There is also a board, Oral Sex, where he might be able to find some useful information. He can join iVillage and ask his own questions here or on that board as well.



Good luck with everything, and let us know how it goes.



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Registered: 06-20-2007
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 2:29am
maybe he's scared. i dated this one guy who did the same thing, not by saying i smelled, but he was honest and just said he had the slightest clue where to touch or lick and how. so i tout him how.

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