request during sex...

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Registered: 06-26-2007
request during sex...
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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 10:13pm

Hi everyone...I'm so glad to have found this board!

I'm seeing someone new after being in a lengthy relationship. I consider myself fairly open-/experienced when it comes to sex but I was asked to do something by my new bf that never came up with previous partners...maybe it's odd that it didn't before. Anyway...

If my man wants to cum on my breasts...not a problem!! My issue is...although I willingly perform oral and swallow, it's not something I truly enjoy (the swallowing, that is). I don't see myself as a "rub it in" kind of girl or licking it off my breasts...

So what do most guys expect when they ask this?? Or, because they're asking can I assume that pretty much they'd be up for anything?

Thanks for any insight!

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 7:13am

Welcome to the board itsnewagain2007.

Personally, I don't think you should do things that you don't want to do. I do think it's fair to give things a try, but if it's not your thing, then there are plenty of other things you can do.

If you are okay with performing a blow job, but not swallowing, I don't see that as a big problem. I can't think of any guys I have known that would rather give up a blow job if you aren't going to swallow. You don't have to rub it in (or lick it off) either. There are always towels or something around that you can wipe it off with.

If you don't like to swallow because of the taste, keep in mind that the taste does change from person-person and based on what he eats. If he's a beer drinker, it may be more bitter. Eating fruits usually make it taste sweeter.

If you don't like to swallow because you gag, you can let it slowly run out of your mouth and back down him while you still have his penis in your mouth. I have also found that there is less taste and less problems with my gag reflex if he is at the top of my throat (or deeper) when he ejaculates. It takes less concentration to swallow that way, and you don't end up with too much in your mouth all of a sudden.

You might also learn some new ideas on the oral sex board. Here's the link:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rloralsex



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Registered: 05-04-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 1:28pm

He just wants to see you accepting of him. His "fluids" being an extension of himself.

So you don't have to rub it in like lotion & wait for it to dry! Just don't wipe it off like it's toxic & your skin is about to peel off. A smile instead of a frown.

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 1:35pm

"So you don't have to rub it in like lotion & wait for it to dry! Just don't wipe it off like it's toxic & your skin is about to peel off. A smile instead of a frown."

So well said!



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