Retaliation?

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Retaliation?
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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 4:25pm
How would you retaliate if you caught your boyfriend cheating on you?
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Registered: 05-27-2005
In reply to: mba2006
Tue, 05-09-2006 - 4:39pm
Leave and NEVER look back.
once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: mba2006
Tue, 05-09-2006 - 4:45pm

I wouldn't retaliate, I would leave him.


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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: mba2006
Tue, 05-09-2006 - 5:26pm

Being a guy, I'll reverse the genders.

If I caught my g/f cheating on me I would probably end the relationship. There are perhaps some circumstances that I might consider staying and rebuilding the relationship, but they'd have to be pretty damned good.

Retaliation is never a good thing in this situation. It accomplishes more harm than good as far as I can see. It'd be tempting, but that would only be because I was so hurt, not because it would acheive anything.

Why would I not end it? Perhaps if the relationship had been long term and there was a lot invested in it. If she had never given any indication or reason for cheating before and this was *clearly* a one-off situation - for the life of me I can't think of what would be a one-off situation unless it involves being paraletic drunk and some guy taking advantage of her. No, that probably wouldn't work for me either. I don't know. I just hope I never have to make that decision.




Edited 5/9/2006 5:32 pm ET by westridge2001
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mba2006
Tue, 05-09-2006 - 6:08pm
i'd sleep with someone else, just to level out the playing field. it would probably make me feel worse, but i think it is something i would do. if he didn't seem to care, then i'd know there really is no rebuilding it, and if he did care i'd probably give the relationship another chance.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mba2006
Tue, 05-09-2006 - 6:25pm

Though I might want to, in the heat of the moment, I wouldn't. Why should I lower my own standards just because he has chosen to? No. I would just be out of there so fast his head would spin.

When a guy chooses to cheat, he's already telling you that you don't mean as much to him as you should.




Edited 5/9/2006 6:28 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 08-12-2002
In reply to: mba2006
Tue, 05-09-2006 - 7:44pm
I wouldn't retaliate. Quite frankly HE wouldn't be worth the effort of retaliating.

 


 


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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: mba2006
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 12:14am

Retaliate? The definition of retaliate is: "To repay, as a wrong or an injury, with the like; to return like for like, especially to do evil in return for evil."

So, he's a low class bum, and you want to lower yourself to his level? How bad do you think that will make him feel? If he's cheating on you, he doesn't CARE what you do, and if he does, too bad, he loses.

The best revenge is to live a good life, WITHOUT him. End the relationship and move on.