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Role playing
| Wed, 05-19-2004 - 7:58pm |
Coming out of lurkdom to ask a question: My husband and I have been together for 18 years. Our sex life has always been fulfilling and exciting, but we've never role played. I feel as though I'm maybe missing something. What exactly does it do and how often is it done? Whenever I would ask my husband if he wants me to dress up and role play, he just tells me that's silly. He says that I'm so sexy, he loves to look at me, as me. Are we missing some extra-arousal tool, or is it the same arousal as would be, were there not any role playing? I wouldn't want to be missing out, although I'd probably feel silly too, but I'd still give it a whirl. How many of you role play? How often? And does it give both of you extra, extra, arousal(wouldn't want to miss that!)?

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If he makes a compromise, then that shows he *does* value you more. Nobody has to make compromises if they don't want to, it's always going to be his choice if he does. You can't make anybody do anything, and there is nothing wrong with explaining your feelings and ask him to make a compromise for you.
>>Right now, his desire is obviously more important than I am because he was not willing to compromise.<<
You know, men aren't mind readers. You have been playing along all this time, so why should he want to change? He thinks you fully enjoy this! Have you sat him down and told him straight forward everything you feel about this situation? What was his response? Men don't usually take hints, you really need to be staright forward about your feelings if you want to inspire any kind of change.
Leticia
Leave him. You deserve better. You deserve a man who will love you for being you, not because he can control you. If you don't believe that, then you aren't going to fool someone else into believing it. You are better than him and you know it.
Sara
I just don't think this is a one-way street. IF you want to be in a relationship, then your partner's feelings, concerns and personal standards must be considered and respected as well. It's all about compromise and understanding. You have to willing to give to get. IF you want everything YOUR way, all the time, then don't be in a relationship because that's unrealistic.
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