Routine or Spontaneous Love?

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Routine or Spontaneous Love?
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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 4:41am
What is your preference
Better the devil you know; Positions/sex acts you are used to….
Or
Devilish delights, splendors in the dark; Positions/sex acts that surprise…..
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 07-04-2007 - 7:55am

My preference really depends on my mood, and the mood of my partner. While we have a couple of positions that we really like, and they are usually incorporated frequently, we also shake things up a bit and try new things often.

I think, currently for us, we probably go with routine about 25% of the time.



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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 8:24am
Dh and I were just discussing this yesterday.
We love the surprise, unexpected, the new and try to incorporate it as much as possible.
BUT often that can take us a lot longer and require a lot more energy because when we experiment, it sometimes doesn't go exactly as planned. Part of the fun is trying. Anyway, we both noticed that we TEND to slip into the routine- "I know he/she will have great pleasure doing this" sex from Monday-Thursday because we have less time and energy but still have the desire to have sex.
We always look forward to days off because one never know what is going to happen!



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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 7:27pm
I love the element of spontaneity….
Waking someone up with a passionate kiss in an unexpected place is a delight…
I like to think out of the square when it comes to pleasure and fantasy as it always keeps things fresh and alive.
Routine; there are certain things that always remain in the repertoire…..but the added element of creativity and surprise always astonishes…
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Thu, 07-05-2007 - 4:32pm
I find comfort and safty in the routine. Whenever we have tried anything new it's always flopped and it's usually me that suffers the most in some way for it. I've never liked suprises of any kind.
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 5:38pm
It really depends on what kind of mood I'm in and what kind of mood my boyfriend is in. Sometimes I want what is familiar, what I'm used to. Other times I feel in a devilish mood and I want my boyfriend to come up with new and exciting things to attempt.
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Registered: 05-11-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 7:40pm
Definitely the spontaneous love thing going on here. But then again I am a Gemini and that is what we are known for! Thank goodness the love of my life, my new guy is a Gemini too. Cause we ROCK together LOL.