saw my parents

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saw my parents
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Sat, 10-08-2005 - 3:18pm
the other morning well first im 19 year old female living at home going to colledge, the other morning i accidently was my parents having sex, and to be honest i got a huge eye full, is it improper for me to tell exqctly what i saw, im really embarassed erica

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 5:20pm

Tell Who? Why are you telling us?

How can you be in college when you can't even spell it?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 7:08pm

Who would you want to tell, your friends, siblings, etc.?


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Sun, 10-09-2005 - 7:03pm

So what? What's the big deal? They're human beings like the rest of us, and they have needs and desires. I think you should be happy for them having a relationship where they still enjoy each other. It's no one else's business, not even yours. Why would you want to tell anyone?

Janet

 


 


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Registered: 08-04-2004
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 6:40am


Don't be so hard on her. At 19, you cannot easily cope with watching your parents having sex. Maybe if you are 25 or 30, it makes no differences, but when you are young or you are a child, your parents having sex is a shocking thing.

I am 33, but I remember when I was 12 or 13 and heard my parents in the bedroom. It caused me disgust. Yeah, now as an adult I don't see anything wrong with it, it's great that they were having fun, but at that time, it is something that you cannot conceive and even less see.

Iliana

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 7:33am

At 19 you can't conceive your parents having sex?


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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 8:02am

I think there's a difference between watching and inadvertently walking in or past an open door. And I don't think 19 is a child. My son is 18 and I don't consider him a child. His girlfriend was teasing him the other day, saying "Ask your mom where you were conceived, maybe it was on the couch. Or maybe here or there..." and he was saying "I don't need to know, I don't want to know!! TMI!" and I said "I'll never tell you. In Maine." And then she started teasing him about where in Maine and I said "I'll never tell. On the sofa bed you sleep on there." And he put on a big act of being outraged and grossed out and we were laughing at him. When I was about 22 and my sister was 18, they had a screened in porch built on their house and she was implying that they had sex on the picnic table out there. My sister made some comment, like "OMG!" and mom said "What? Are you surprised we might be having sex on the picnic table?" and my sis joked and said "No, I'm just surprised you're still having sex!" and we laughed.

At 12 or 13 I wasn't grossed out by the thought of my parents having sex, I was more curious about what they actually *did* or what anyone did in bed. At 19 I was mature enough and knew enough to know exactly what was done in bed and I wasn't grossed out by it, although I might have been embarrassed for them and me if I'd walked in on them. I do remember hearing them one night late and thinking "Wow, listen to them gettin' it on!" I was kind of impressed that they seemed to be having a great time, lol. But disgusted or upset that they actually had a sex life? Nah.

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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 9:43am

Why does the OP remind me of the occasional "I saw my brother (or sister, or neighbor or whoever) thru an open door (or window)?

Tell me who, whether it's parents or brothers or neighbors, doesn't shut the door when they're having sex and there is another person in the house.

The grammar, punctuation and the spelling (or lack of it) makes me wonder!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 9:43am

Tell whom? Why do you need to tell anyone?

Look, sex is part of life. You're here, so obviously your parents have sex. Yes, just for fun, too! Be happy that they're still together and still sexually attracted to one another. That's what supposed to happen!

So, adjust your perception of those two old fogies and get used to the idea of people OVER 19 having sex. May make you shudder a little but it's reality. LOL!




Edited 10/10/2005 9:45 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 9:53am

Hi Erica,

I have a 21 year old son and 19 year old daughter (as well as a son and daughter that are 11 and 9). Your embarrassment is REALLY normal. You're embarrassed because you see your parents within the role of "Mom and Dad" and not as sexual beings. No need to beat yourself up for being embarrassed over something like this...most of us would be.

Having said that, allow yourself to appreciate that you have parents that love each other and are expressing it. This makes for a much more solid family for you and any of your siblings. In the future learn to knock and you can avoid all of this.

Peace,
Scott.

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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 3:59pm
Yes, the maturity level of the person will likely determine how they view their parent's sex life. A 19 yr. old is a young adult. But if a 19 yr. old is immature, then they could be shocked, disgusted, etc. by the revelation that their parents have sex. Otherwise, I can't imagine that any young person would be. In THIS day and age? Not very likely.


Edited 10/10/2005 5:58 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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