School girl??????

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Registered: 11-01-2004
School girl??????
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 12:15pm
My DH stares at 18 year olds and likes for me to wear my hair in a ponytail and pig tails. This is really bothering me and all I can think is that he is wanting a "teenager" although legal - but we are in our 30's and our daughter will be a teenager soon. Is this wrong or is it okay for him to have this "fetish" or "fantasy" and play it out with me? It is making me uncomfortable though without fully knowing what his thoughts are and he doesn't want to share "those" thoughts with me.

Help please

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 11-05-2004 - 7:07pm
The only thing that bothered me in the OP was that she said *and he does not want to share those thoughts with me*.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Fri, 11-05-2004 - 11:20pm
The OP didn't specifically say that the pigtails are desired for sex. I assumed that it was simply a general look that he liked. Later in the post, she did mention fetishes - but I took that as being her interpretation after combining the perv factor with general pigtail wearing. The O/P has not given us enough info for us to know whether this is a true fetish or if she's simply over-reacting. It's like how some posters who's husbands use porn describe it as an addiction - when in reality, it's really not that bad.

I assumed that him not telling her about it was because there's nothing much to say. If I asked my DH why he likes long blonde hair - he'd say "because I do". If I pressed him for more info, he'd get mad because there is no more info. And he hates being pressed and made to analyse stuff that doesn't matter.

Unless there's a later post that I've missed - I can't begin to speculate on the O/P's husband because there's simply a lack of information from the O/P. Innocent till proven guilty.....or at least till more info is at hand.

Occaisional school girl dress ups are no big deal IMHO - but if it is actually a 'fetish' (ie; something that he can't get off without having) then I think there's much more at hand. And in that case, I agree that he should be talking about it.

BTW, my ex-husband used to like me to wear my old school uniforms on occaision - and I never thought twice about it. Perhaps it's the influence of AC/DC and The Divinyls school uniform stage wear in the 80's that makes me see school girl/boy dress-ups as something a bit fun and raunchy - but nothing more.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 4:55pm
I just re-read the conversation and I'm inclined to agree with aisha. I just don't think that there is enough here to worry about. Sure, I think that staring, really staring, at 18yo girls is extremely inappropriate I just don't think that it's dangerous. The staring thing may be the only part of this whole thing that I'd be worried about because it is inappropriate and rude.

If he can't explain why he likes the pigtails that's no big deal either. I can't imagine that very many people, especially guys, want to sit down and have a detailed discussion about their sexual preferences and analyse the reasoning behind it. Even if they did a lot of guys would have problems putting it into words.

Even if he does have a thing for schoolgirls and his wife IS satisfying him in this area by wearing her hair in pigtails, I would think that most guys that have a thing for the schoolgirl look are going to pay attention to the real thing if it presents itself. I know that I love stockings - my partner wears them for me, but if I see a picture of a woman in stockings then you can bet your bottom dollar that I'll be interested.

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