self conscience about being on top

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Registered: 05-20-2003
self conscience about being on top
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Fri, 08-27-2004 - 11:26am
I have always been selfconcscience about being on top. Not so much about my body but whether I am doing a good job or not. I have been seeing my BF since may and he usually seems to want me on top so I have been getting a lot more practice. My question is a lot of times he comes when I am on top and he comes pretty hard.(Like lastnight LOL) Does that mean I am doing a good job. I know I should ask him but I always feel I don't know what i am doing. LOL
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 08-27-2004 - 11:36am
There is no right or wrong way for any sexual position.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Fri, 08-27-2004 - 12:44pm
Here's a thread that is down below you might want to check out.
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Registered: 08-27-2004
Fri, 08-27-2004 - 1:55pm
Men are more likely to come faster than women, this is a very well-known fact. I would say, if your guy has no complaints then you're doing just fine. Obviously he is satisfied. Here's a tip so you may be more able to come out with your question of *am I doing this right?* When you feel he is nearing climax, ask in a sexy, yet suddle. way. Something along the lines of *how does that feel?* or *do you like that?* You may also wish to incorporate a few body movements as well. Just as Trish mentioned, move your hips, and grind into him, rub your breats, or let out a moan. You may not always climax, but that doesn't mean you are/or have not enjoyed the experience. Best of luck!
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Fri, 08-27-2004 - 6:21pm
Why are you thinking of sex (in any position) as doing a "job"? (Am I doing a good job?) Whether or not he reaches climax in that or any other position, has nothing to do with "how you're doing". That's up to him. Just as your orgasms are up to you, not him.

You're doing it because you enjoy it, he enjoys it, and you'll both enjoy it together. If he finishes that way, great! If not, then you move on to another position where he WILL finish. Most guy like their woman on top because they like watching HER have orgasms, and that's one of the best positions for a woman to have an orgasm. There is more to "pleasure" than orgasms, and if he likes you up there, and you enjoy it, then just DO it, and don't worry about whether or not you're doing a "good job".

Believe me, if he wasn't enjoying it, he'd stop asking you to do it.