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| Fri, 10-20-2006 - 11:28am |
I just want to ask u a question, but i have to give a few details to do that.I have been seeing this guy 4 about 4 months , 2 months of it we have been living together. before living togther he and i would have sex three times in lets say 4 hours and he would make sure i had a orgasm. Now after moving in and even right when i moved in the sex got about 1 minute long if that long..he gets on he gets off and hes done..even when hes doing oral he dosent to my point of view try..it dosent matter which sexual position..still the same result..I am a very sexual person..even with baths together its still the 60 second sex ..I have actually gotten to the point since r last 60 sec sex that i turned him down for a bath together cuzz i couldnt see why i should even bother ..I believe he likes to take baths so he can get off and get clean right after...i know this sounds bad..but i believe this...after he gets off no matter where were at he dosent nothing further ..then it will be almost 2 weeks till it hims again..I have to satisfy my self . daily ..I want to know what this is all about..He says he loves me all the time and i cant hardly see if a person loves u as much as he says he does ..how could he leave me like that in bed ? second question...If i was to one night in bed when we start doing are thing , as soon as he jumps on about 20 seconds later basically end it before he gets off ..do u think he might understand what hes doing to me..if he left the ways he has left me every time...will this work? help me please...r should i just end the relationship? help!!!

If you liked this guy enough to sleep with him and then move in, don't you think the problem is worth working out, if possible?
Yes, people can get selfish or thoughtless when they get comfortable and maybe that's the situation here. But the way to solve problems, ANY problem, is to talk about it and try to figure out a solution together.
Talk with him, tell him that your needs are no longer being met. Ask him what happened to the sensitive and compassionate lover you moved in with?
TELL him what you need to be happy and then, if things don't change for the better or a compromise found, you can then decide if he's the right guy for you.