Sensitive Skin

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Registered: 10-17-2004
Sensitive Skin
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Sat, 12-04-2004 - 8:26am

Not much that can be done about it....just wondering if I'm the only one who has experienced this.

My boyfriend is very hairy and shaves everyday but my chin and lips get so sore and bruised when I kiss him for long periods of time....I've actually had swollen lips and a red chin for a few days later. Then my chin gets incredibly dry and peels.

I've been using tons of lotion. Any other suggestions for a quick heal?

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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: shazzy1960
Sat, 12-04-2004 - 2:40pm

Forgive me please if I completely read you wrong, but by mentioning HIS hair and shaving, I'm left with the only guess that you're suffering because of hair and shave situation. So, if I did get that right so far, then...

I must say that you've done what could by what I know, but it really is a matter of him doing a bit more...honestly. We gents shave to be smooth when we shave that hair off. If he is not smooth, then the issue is with him getting that job done so that it IS. You have nothing to feel uneasy about as far as your efforts go, and there really isn't anything I can personally think of that would help you

other than

being politely and effectively honest with him about it. I'm a bit perplexed that he hasn't noticed what you've gone through. Is this not something you've discussed with him? He needs to smoothen out, REALLY. Some may laugh at this, but I'm serious and I'd be surprised if one single lady didn't tell you close to the same thing...ahem...not that I haven't been surprised before...LOL! ;)

If there is ANY advice he/you need that would help him get smoother, you can either try one of the male message boards that IVillage has, or come on back in here and the gents here can spare a few tips too.

Just my opinion. Good luck!

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Registered: 10-17-2004
In reply to: shazzy1960
Sat, 12-04-2004 - 2:47pm

I really don't think he could do anything he isn't already doing. I mentioned this once to him but his hair grows incredibly fast. He can grow a full beard in a week. He shaves every morning. He usually goes from work to my house and already has stubble...lol.

Thanks for your insight, though...

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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: shazzy1960
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 4:50pm

Not much you can do except make him shave after work if you think that you are in for an extended session of kissing. Perhaps he could buy a rechargeable electric razor and get rid of the 5 o'clock shadow at your house? Wet shaving with a blade razor is much better but it is a hassle doing that again later in the day unless you have a quick shave in the shower. It's not a crazy idea though. I know that when I was dating I would always make sure that I shaved after work as part of getting ready for the date to get rid of my bristles. Once he gets into a bit of a routine he won't even think about it.

It's either that or be honest and tell him that you have to reduce the amount of time spent kissing!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: shazzy1960
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 10:51pm
Make him aware of what he is doing to your face and lips. If he is sympathetic to your plight, he will shave immediately before having sex with you EVERY TIME. He can leave a razor at your place. Most men who shave in the morning, have to shave before making love to their wives or SO's in the evening. There is no need for you to suffer this way.
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Registered: 10-12-2004
In reply to: shazzy1960
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 8:40am

A fresh shave to get rid of the 5:00 shadow, may be in order. It doesn't take long for stubble to grow.

I'm sure if you explained what's happening he won't mind freshening up with quick shave, especially if it means your in the mood for snuggling.

Try to have on hand what he needs to shave at your place, just for convenience. I assume your aren't living together since you said he comes over strait from work.