Serious ? for ladies...

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Serious ? for ladies...
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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 6:49pm
I am a 22 year old male college student. For whatever reason, I am very attracted to older women. By older, I mean 30's, maybe 40's. I have had several "normal" relationships and sexual relations with girls my own age, but I guess you could call this a side fantasy. Just for the sake of argument, I'll add that I have been described as "extremely attractive" by female peers. I'm wondering from a perspective of ladies in this age group, if you would engage in a sexual relationship with a man of my age(Im not trying to pick anyone up here :))? Would anyone say they have a fantasy of sleeping with a younger man, as in college age? I wouldn't ever want to sleep with a married women or anything of that sort just for clarification. I also am very turned on by the idea of sex with a pregnant women. Again, unexplainable, just a fantasy(nothing creepy). Thoughts??
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Registered: 03-04-2007
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 8:11pm

sorry - shouldn't have said that.

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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 9:32pm
i'm only 28, but i can't say that age ever comes to mind unless there is an extreme difference. but they are not uncommon fantasies. even the pregnant one. many men find pregnant women very sexy!
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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 10:42pm
said what??
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 8:42am

For me (in my 40s)

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Registered: 12-08-2007
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 12:27pm

I'm 37 and if I ever found myself single, I'd be looking for a 20 something year old hottie! I think it would be JUST the ego boost I'd need! Now, my kids are little, if I had a 20 year old son, that might be a different story. OUCH! I can't even believe I'm old enough to have a 20 year old kid.

I think i'm gonna be sick...

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Registered: 12-25-2006
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 12:32pm

When I was 22, I was attracted to older men...40's especially.











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Registered: 12-07-2007
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 1:28pm

Woman in their 30's and older have pretty much out grown their issues that we had in relationships when we were in our early 20's. We are more mature have more experience and some of us have less inhibitions so I can see why a 22 year old man would fantasize. My brothers wife is just 9 years younger then my mom and 14 years older then him. They are quite happy.

I am happily married..if I were to end up single again I can't say that I would neccesarily end up in a relationship with a man of your age due to maturity (not that you are immature) and for me personally sex would only be something I would do in a committed relationship. Fantasy wise..sure because men in their 20's can usually go several rounds. I am very flattered when a younger good looking man whistles or starts staring. Makes me feel really good. Nothing wrong with your fantasy and nothing wrong with you acting on your fantasy with an older woman. And yes many men find pregnant woman very sexy.

I really do not think age matters except in the case of older men or woman engaging in relations with teenagers who are not mature enough to really know.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 8:39pm

Welcome to the board, houth625.

I don't think your fantasies seem creepy at all. Sometimes fantasies are something that you really want to act on, and other times they are something that are just fantasy. Like Tish said, there are people with fantasies much further "out there" than the ones you are mentioning.

My DH is 10 years older than I am. I can't say that I have a proclivity toward older men, but I know that I'm not normally attracted to men who are a lot younger either. Different things work for different people, and I'm sure you could find many women in their 30s or 40s who would be interested in a relationship of some sort with you.





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Wed, 02-06-2008 - 9:22pm

I just turned 38, and one of the first things I noticed when I found myself unexpectedly single at age 34 was that most people my age are a wreck! Physically, I mean. Men in my age group tend to be paunchy, and to exhibit a blatant disregard for their appearance that men in their 20s do not.

Last spring, I had a 4 month affair with a 24 YO graduate student--he was HOT, hotter than anyone I'd ever hooked up with when I was 24!!! The sex was good, and he was very eager. However, as much as it pains me to say it, at 24 he was just not at the point at which driving the woman crazy was the ultimate turn-on for him. My current lover is 44, and that definitely is his ultimate turn-on! Plus, my 44 YO friend never needs to be reminded to use a coaster, to keep his feet off the coffee table, nor does he use the word "party" as a verb, or address me as "dude."

But if he wasn't in the picture, I'd definitely consider another younger man!