sex on the 1st date ?!?!?
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sex on the 1st date ?!?!?
| Sun, 06-27-2004 - 6:18pm |
Help! I am new to the board and am also new to dating after being married for 4 years. I have been trying this internet daing thing - it's going pretty good - but this morning one of my contacts who I have been chatting with for several weeks and I met for coffee. Shortly after we ended up back at my place in bed. It was amazing and I more than enjoied it...but I can't help but feel that it was a pretty slutty thing to do. Maybe I have just been out of the "real world" for too long. Please let me know what y'all think.
Thanks!
Heather

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Hi Heather and welcome to the board.
I'm a firm believer in live your life the way you want to live it as long as you don't hurt anyone else.
No, I wouldn't say it was a slutty thing to do at all.
You did mention that you had chatted with this individual for a couple of weeks. Sometimes what you meet online and what you meet in person aren't the same person... We tend to idealise and sometimes construct data in our heads about what we expect from the person. I expect that you had liked what you saw online and were vindicated when you got to meet him in person for the first time. Excellent. And you felt the mutual chemistry. Also good.
I have had a few dates from people I've met online, and very recently I had a very similar situtiaon to you.
We had met that morning. Had lunch. Parted for about two hours, she called me and invited me over for sundaes and movies. A few hours later we were in bed. I'm not sure you can call it a second or first date But, it was the first day we'd actually met after about a week fo chatting and two phone conversations totalling near six hours immediately prior.
I figure by the end of that we knew eachother pretty well. And she had a good handle on me. When we met there was no dissapoinement nor disengenuine feelings. And after sex. We'll we just lay there and laughed and hugged. It was tremendous release for me and her both.
Since then though we've realised that there are issues that neither of us can surmount but we do remain friends and continue to chat online several times a day. Even tonight we chatted for an hour and teased one another. It's all good.
So, don't feel bad about what happened. Take it for what it was. Just plain good sex, and maybe the start of something great.
And I agree with Tish on another point...
Be safe!
CEH
honey
You're newly divorced - have fun!
honey
as for a man not seriously dating a woman who has sex with him on a first date, thats not true...i had sex on the 2nd date with my husband and i've known other couples who were impulsive sexually...to predict this guy will only want sex is ridiculas.
honey
Women know that it's a rare man who will turn down an opportunity to have sex, especially on a 1st date. But, many men still continue to hold women to a higher standard and judge them more harshly if they do the same. There are always exceptions though.
Just cautioning that the double standard still exists for many men doesn't mean that I agree with it.
Edited 6/28/2004 5:54 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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