Sex??

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Sex??
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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 12:35pm

Everyone Says that men want sex more then women but IMO I think women want sex just as much as men if not even more. Ladies what do you think?

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Registered: 08-16-2006
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:04pm

No. I don't agree. Males have the predominant sex hormone called testosterone that gives the male animal ( even the human species ) a higher and more aggressive sex drive. Women do produce testosterone but in much smaller amounts, just as men produce estrogen in small amounts.

Now I do know women who have a higher than average desire for sex and I stongly believe that it's a combination of hormones in their optimal balance , level of health and fitness, past experience that leads to feeling sexy and confident but most of all how their partners treat them.

I don't think as women we "want sex as much or more" than our partners. However, I think most women realize that sex is a great way to get what we REALLY, REALLY, REALLY want, the easiest and most direct means possible ( your love, time, attention, money, children, stabilty, etc ).

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:15pm

I think women that truly like sex want it just as much as men do. Unfortunately, many women never learn to really enjoy sex, never have orgasms, etc. -- for those women, I doubt that they have a very high sex drive. Why would anyone want something that they don't get enjoyment from? I hear a lot of women talk badly about sex, they feel like it's a chore :(



Either sex can have a lower libido, and hormones do play a lot into it, but I know that some men have way lower sex drives than I do.



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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:16pm

It depends entirely on the person. There are men with low libidos, and women with high libidos....

Libido is "brain driven".....it's a natural "instinct" that has kept the human race in existence. However, the brain is affected by hormones, and by emotions, and by learned behaviors AND past experiences. There are men and women who will "suppress" their natural instincts. There are men AND women who are happy with sex once a month, or once a year, or never.

One "arguement" for premarital sex would be that at least you can find out if you both have the same libido....and the same interest in sex. Unfortunately, sometimes men who can't get enough find themselves in a relationship with women who could care less. And believe it or not, there are women who can't get enough....stuck with men who aren't that interested.

In "general"....it's believed that men are more interested in sex.....but generalizations are like statistics. It takes a LOT of people that vary from one end of the spectrum to the other end of the spectrum, to make a statistic. And statistics can be skewed by the method of compiling them.

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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:31pm

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In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:37pm

I agree with you 100% some women feel like sex is a chore. After doing chores all day and work why rush into sex it should be something that takes time and meaning I make sure my SO is pleased everytime. Men need to realize if a man gets to orgasms everytime why shouldnt we give that to our woman no matter how long it takes.
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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:43pm

I think it all depends on the individual man or woman.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 2:21pm

"I also feel when talking about libido within a relationship, the relationship as a whole can have a lot of bearing on one's libido."



So true Tish. I think not only the condition of the relationship but also factors of life can & do affect a persons libido. Many men get overstressed at work, resulting in a lower libido. Just as any women can get over burdened taking care of the family and home and thus have a decrease in libido. The list could really go on and on.



DH and I have gone through varying stages of libidos, often similar, and other times totally mismatched. I imagine if the basis of our relationship was not so strong, we would not have overcome the times that were so drastically mismatched.



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Registered: 10-28-2006
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 2:47pm

Well my DH is trying to keep up!!! lol

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Registered: 08-16-2006
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 4:25pm

That did sound manipulative didn't it. I'm sure that women in general do realize the power that they have and use it to the fullest extent possible. But, the message that I poorly conveyed is that when women are happy outside the bedroom with various needs/wants they (we) are more eager and willing to please as well as be enthusiastic bed mates. That's certainly true of myself.

I will however withhold/refuse DH sexually if I feel provoked, and everyone can use their imaginations on that! If I'm angry at him, I certianly don't want him nor do I care about his drive or needs at that moment.

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Registered: 04-20-2007
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Wed, 05-23-2007 - 12:06pm
I think I always want sex and Dh doesnt want it enough..lol...I think it depends on the woman though...I have known men who want it more than woman...

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