sex

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Mon, 05-09-2005 - 4:10pm
I'm married man with two kids and wife, my wife seems to me never realy interested in sex any more this has been going on for about 7 years now or more not sure i lost trax.. when we do have sex she's seems no-interested or if interested she gets off 1st and wants to be done.. i want more.. she don't like getting on top, or changeing positions. i think she just wants to get it over with.. she works two jobs takes care of the kids and cleans.. but so do i do everything that she does and then some.. i work 50 to 60 hrs week and help with kids stuff and house stuff , i cook,clean,laundry,keep the carts clean, i also do gardening and what ever else that can be done, i don't drink or smoke, i have found that the only time she realy wants sex is if she was drunk then sex getts better then the normal.. what is wrong with me or her or ????? help signed very stressed out lonley man...
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Registered: 05-09-2005
In reply to: junior34
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 2:04pm
r u married, i tell me wife all the time that she looks good, so it's not about that .. i'm trying to get other people that maybe be going throught this or they have already gone thru this, so if u haven't do reply ..
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Registered: 08-12-2004
In reply to: junior34
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 2:41pm
I went through it for 11 yrs.
I got divorced
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In reply to: junior34
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 3:24pm

Honey, I've been married for 28 yrs. so there's few problems, with the exceptions of cheating and abuse, that we haven't dealt with in some way.

And besides, this is an open message board, so you don't get to decide who can or cannot respond to your posts. Sorry.

What does telling your wife that she "looks good" have to do with being grossed out by her parts or bodily functions anyway? I'm talking about your feeling, and perhaps, subconsciously, acting like, that her parts are gross. And even if you try to hide that, she'll know how you feel.




Edited 5/10/2005 3:58 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: junior34
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 5:06pm

Have you sat down and talked to her about it, asked her why she isn't interested in sex and ask her if there is anything you can do to help her get more interested?


~Tish

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Registered: 05-09-2005
In reply to: junior34
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 5:48pm
LOL
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Registered: 05-09-2005
In reply to: junior34
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 5:50pm
WE'VED TALKED ABOUT IT FOR 7 YRS OR MORE, SHE SAID THAT SHE WOULD GO SEE SOMEONE BUT NEVER HAS...ANY THOUGHTS????
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Registered: 05-09-2005
In reply to: junior34
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 5:52pm
WHY DID HE CHEAT ON U??WHAT HAPPENED IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP??
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: junior34
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 5:58pm

I didn't say that my DH cheated on me. I said that we've dealt with the same problems over the years that many married couples do, WITH THE EXCEPTION of infidelity and abuse. But I would never stay with a man who was unfaithful or abusive.

There have been periods in our marriage when one or the other wanted less sex and we overcame it. But sometimes, the only way to overcome an issue is with counseling.




Edited 5/10/2005 6:06 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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In reply to: junior34
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 6:06pm

"""LOL"""

I'm not kidding. Did the talking and begging and years of counseling.
That was her way...(not wanting sex)
I wanted more. I got divorced.
I don't mean to sound cold, it was the hardest thing I've ever done. But, I had to do it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: junior34
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 6:09pm
Yes, Luv, I also thought that was an inappropriate and strange response. What's funny about divorce?