Sex Advice

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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 9:39pm

Edited 7/31/2007 8:42 pm ET by lindaj84




Edited 7/31/2007 8:47 pm ET by lindaj84

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Registered: 08-01-2006
In reply to: lindaj84
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 9:48pm
Hi linda, My mom never had the mother-daughter talk with me or any of my sisters, (there are 4 of us). I learned everything on my own, at school or through friends. I believe she enjoyed sex, she had 6 kids. She and my dad were always a loving couple. We were raised hugging and kissing (on the cheeks) all our relatives, so we're not afraid of touching. But I think back then, sex just wasn't talked about. Yes, she knew people had sex, I guess maybe she figured because I worked at a hospital with doctors and in an ob/gyn office that they would answer all my questions.



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Registered: 02-28-2006
In reply to: lindaj84
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 9:51pm
*If you are a male, while growing up as a teenage boy, did your father ever have the famous “Father-Son” talk with you, what was the greatest advice he gave you?*

No, most of my learning at that age came from *borrowing* copies of Penthouse from his nightstand, or *intercepting* them in the mail before my parents got home.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: lindaj84
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 10:18pm

I honestly think my mom is a prude -- that's my story, and I'm sticking to it!


The only talk my mom ever gave me was about the original sin being the reason we have periods.





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Registered: 05-21-2007
In reply to: lindaj84
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 11:07pm

If you are a male, while growing up as a teenage boy, did your father ever have the famous “Father-Son” talk with you, what was the greatest advice he gave you?

Never got one. Sad to say everything I learned about sex in my early-teen years I learned it from porn movies in the early 80's. All I wanted to do is send a big thank you to the guy who invented the VHS.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: lindaj84
Sat, 07-21-2007 - 9:43am

We didn't have the famous *Mother-Daughter* sex talk as in her saying, let's sit down there's something I want to talk to you about but we had the *sex talks* from the time we started asking questions.

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Registered: 10-28-2006
In reply to: lindaj84
Sat, 07-21-2007 - 1:24pm

yes my mother kind'a told me about sex. All she really said that I remember
is that's how you have a baby. No advice. Didn't really want it from her anyways.
Instead I watched some porn when i was a virgin and that answered most of my questions.
Did my mother enjoy sex well she did befor she met my dad. That's what she says.
She hasn't had sex for 8 yrs and doesn't care if she ever see's another penis again.
I don't think she has a open mind about sex I think she's very traditional.
The only time she's ever aksed me about my sex life is now while I'm pregnant.
She asked if it was any good! I was in shock. That's the only time she's ever
mentioned sex. It wasn't a conversation it was a yes or no question. lol.
Sex has never been something to talk about infact my siblings have come to me for
answeres. My brother has said our dad has never talked to him about sex or anything
close to it. So he's very curious and young. As you can see our family is not open
to sex talk.

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Registered: 11-15-2006
In reply to: lindaj84
Sat, 07-21-2007 - 4:25pm

If you are a female, while growing up as a teenage girl, did your mother ever have the famous “Mother-Daughter” talk with you, what was the greatest advice she gave you? Do you believe your mother enjoyed sex or had an open-mine toward sex?




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Registered: 02-28-2006
In reply to: lindaj84
Sat, 07-21-2007 - 4:35pm
*I do worry about her being pressured to do things she isn't ready for but I know she has an understanding that sex is a good thing with the right person. Now if I can only find a safe spot for that chastity belt key!!*

This is something I expect to worry about a great deal with my DD when she reaches puberty. She is very tall for her age (95th percentile), and has always looked about 2 years older than she actually is, which I expect to be a huge issue during early adolescence when those 2 years make a big difference in terms of what she will be ready for.

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Registered: 05-11-2007
In reply to: lindaj84
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 10:32am

My mother never talked to me about anything. She had me so shy and ashamed that when my period first started (I was 10) I didn't go to her. Instead I tried to hide it and I remember she found the blood on my pajamas and then just took me aside and showed me where the 'supplies' were. I found out everything on my own and I think I was a lot more curious about it because of the way she was. I really don't know if she enjoyed it or not.

Now I totally believe that being that closemouthed and so obviously embarrassed to talk about these things with your kids can make them more promiscious and make them engage in risky behavior sooner than they should simply out of curiousity. I remember thinking that if it was that big of a secret that I simply had to find out what it was. Thus I became very sexual active at a young age (15).

I broke that pattern when I raised my kids. I was very open about it with my daughter and sons both. I know that none of them had sex just for the sake of sex. Every one of them married the person they lost their virginity to and are still married to them. As a matter of fact, my youngest son who is a marine was a virgin till he was almost 23. He just married her a few months ago. Can you tell I am proud of my gorgeous, wonderful children :). And their spouses!

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Registered: 05-30-2007
In reply to: lindaj84
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 10:56pm

My mother never had the talk with me. In my house it was all about being told that you don't do anything before marriage, end of discussion.

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