Sex after a long time
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Sex after a long time
| Sun, 05-13-2007 - 12:03pm |
I have been in a relationship but we did not have sex for a long time, now that we have separated I am a little worried about having sex with my next partner. I am worried that I might be clumsy.

Every "partner" is different, and when you first start having sex, it's always a bit clumsy and awkward, even if you had sex the day before with someone else. It's certainly not like you've forgotten the basics.....but when you get past the basics, everyone is somewhat different in what they need, what they want, what they do, etc. Until you get familiar with the person, it's not going to be perfect.
It's no different for you. Until they learn what you want and need, they're not going to be perfect, either.
Don't "worry" about it, if you find someone, get to know them, and learn to TALK to them, it'll all take care of itself.
Welcome to the board gal_shelly13. I hope you'll stop by May Roll Call and let us get to know you a bit better.
As Sakura said, sex with a new partner can be clumsy for both of you. I think it depends on what kind of relationship you are looking for, and how you feel about sex with your new partner to begin with. If you are confident in the choices that you are making, then there is no reason to not be confident that sex will be great.
I don't think you will forget how to have sex. I think it's more likely that the old feelings (like what you enjoy about sex) will come rushing back once you experience sex again.
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