Sex and body part 2.

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Registered: 01-21-2007
Sex and body part 2.
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Fri, 02-23-2007 - 6:40pm
Ok, I was just watching a movie on Show Case or a show, whatever it was and there was this girl in it. She was wearing a bikini and I was so jealous of her body. She wasn't skinny punny like me. I dunno. It's like when I see a woman my age or older even younger who I think are beautiful, I also start comparing myself to them. I am beginning to think I can't wait to get pregnant, cause then I won't be stick like. And and, you guys are probably thinking I don't eat. But I actually do. I been stuffing my face with food till my cholesteral ended up high, and thats a surprise considering how small I am. Unbeleiveable eh? But ya. Anyways you'd think it makes sense if you eat alot you won't be skinny. When I look in the mirror I don't like what I see mostly. Sometimes I do though. It just makes me feel sad. My younger sister is 18 and I'm 22. I feel ashamed of my age, when before, I used to be so proud to tell it. Now if I tell it, all I hear ppl saying to me is that I'm tiny. It's embaressing. My b/f is 6 feet 0 and well ya, I'm 5 feet 1. My hight doesn't bother me though, infact it's really just my boobs thats an issue. I think having a cup size bigger would improve my body very much. Except, I really don't want implants. There not real anyway, it's pointless to get. Plus there's health risks. I realy am scared to have sex with my b/f. He's a nice guy and I trust him and stuff, it has nothing to do with him. It has to do with my lack of busts really. My butt is ok, it's good actually, It's not flat or big. Everything on me is fine, I have no idea why my boobs aren't. Right, so I can't fix that, unless I get pregnant. Anyway what can I do to overcome this feeling of being scared to have sex cause of my body? My b/f, I know he'd want to see me naked one day, but I'm feeling that I'd never allow that. Not unless I get pregnant...I guess cause then, I won't have the body of a young teen just developing.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 9:15am

You're insecure about your breasts size and you think if you were pregnant that is going to help you feel better just because your boobs will get larger?


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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 11:32am

There is something terribly wrong about the way you think! You need to get over your self loathing, and start acting like an adult. You may be 22, but your mental age is more like 14 or 15. Your mind, and your insecurities wouldn't change if your breasts were one cup size bigger. You'd still be insecure if you had size 40DD breasts! I was like you, the appetite of a horse, and never gained an ounce. That was before I had three children. Now, instead of 34B, I'm a 40DD. I have stretch marks on top of stretch marks. I've gained about 75 pounds that will not go away. And you know what? I liked my body when it was skinny, and I like it now. It's the only one I have, everything works great, no man has ever rejected me because of it, and it's the least of my worries.

You feel that it would be great to get pregnant? Did you realize that at the end of the pregnancy there's a baby to take care of for the rest of your life? Sure, your breasts would grow some, and then after the baby is born, they will go back to whatever size they were, only now the skin is stretched, and they SAG. And they're covered with stretch marks. And, the skin on your belly will be full of stretch marks, and it will sag, too. And you'll be awake every night with a crying hungry baby, and you'll have bags under your eyes for a year or so.

Getting pregnant is not a cure for poor body image and insecurity. Getting help for your skewed thinking is the only thing that will help you. This has nothing to do with your body, it has to do with insecurity and self loathing. Only when you learn to love yourself will you ever have a successful relationship. Only when you learn that a man doesn't love you for your breasts.....but for YOU, will you ever be happy in life. Get yourself some help ASAP.

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Registered: 01-21-2007
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 11:42pm
Well ya, You guys are right about what your saying. I should stop thinking that way cause it's stupid. But some ppl when they see me and my younger sister who is 18, they compare us. They'll ask who's older. My sister will say me and then ppl will say I'm so tiny. My b/f's cousin for example. She hasn't seen my sister, but when I told her I was 22, she said I'm tiny. I used to be proud to tell others my age, but now I'm ashamed. I know I'm tiny already, but yet ppl will inform me like it's, I dunno even, but it bothers me. I am trying to brush it off and ignore them but it's like when ppl don't like being called fat, I don't like being called tiny. When ppl look at me and think I don't eat, or that I get sick or something. When really far from it, you know? It's hurting. And ok, I don't know why I was mixing up sex with my body size. That was pathetic, I agree.