Sex and Body Shape.
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Sex and Body Shape.
| Tue, 09-18-2007 - 5:01pm |
Hey guys! I been with my b/f for 9 months and 18 days. Do you guys think thats a long time or still short into the relationship? Anyway we are having sex. We hardly are though. We almost don't in my opniion. Not that I'd want to everyday or every week cause thats not my thing, I do like the idea of taking breaks and doing other things especially since sex shouldn't be based on a relationship. We go out and do things together. The movies, certain events, the mall and ect, ect. But the last time we had sex was like at the ending of August I think. I mean I guess it's good in a way cause it's showing he's not in it just for the sex. But isn't that a long time to now? I was talking to a friend about this and he was telling me it's ok cause when sex gets to be regular it can get boring. He said it's good to wait that long cause then when we do have sex, it'll be really good. Like ohhh thats so hot kind of thing. He said thats how it is with him and his g/f. So I don't know. I'm starting to feel that my body isn't good enough for him though. I'm short, 5 feet 1, weighing in the low hundreds and well I'm small. Tiny or skinny however you guys want to put it. My breasts are an A34. My b/f now, he's 6 feet, weighing I think one sixty or one

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I think you're being way too hard on yourself. It's more likely that your lack of self-esteem is causing a problem than your actual body. Your BF is with you because he wants to be. Sex can get routine, but it doesn't "have' to get routine. Have you thought about asking your BF why he doesn't seem interested in sex more often?
Here's a link that I think you should read. I call it a 'feel good article'.
Boost Your Body Image in the Bedroom
http://diet.ivillage.com/motivate/mimage/0,,Jessica%20Weiner_b77pvv7g,00.html
On a different note, it appears that you are making excuses for your body. While your breasts may grow while you're pregnant, they're not likely to stay larger after you deliver a baby. It has nothing to do with being premature at birth, it has to do with your DNA, physiological make up, genetics, etc. You can also alter your body by gaining weight, but that isn't necessarily healthy.
"But do you guys think sex is better when a woman isn't fat nor skinny, but normal size? Or do you think it has nothing to do with how a woman's body is? "
It has nothing to do with your body if he cares for you.
If a guy spends a lot of time masturbating, then he might need the familiar feeling of masturbation to easily ejaculate. It has nothing to do with you, and he can certainly retrain himself. Laying off the masturbation and having partnered sex for a while is the best way to do that.
Also, how often is he watching porn and masturbating? That could, in itself, contribute to the reasons why he isn't interested in sex more often with you.
As everyone else has said, your body shape, or anyone's body shape, has NOTHING to do with a man's desire or need for sex.
Being premature has nothing to do with your size.......or your breast size.
If you know anything about genetics......you inherit genes from each of your parents.
I was born six and a half weeks premature. While I'm on the shorter side for a guy, I'm not small - I'm quite stocky in fact, and neither of my parents are tall so that explains why I'm shorter too. Being premature doesn't normally affect your size. I believe (but don't quote me on this I may be wrong) that it can affect you if you were really really early and have had serious health problems all your life because of that - and then it's not so much being premature as it is the serious health problems that affect your growth.
Your b/f may have a low libido - that's certainly possible. He might be using too much porn too often too, and not have any interest left over for real sex. That might be a vicious circle too - he might use porn cause he isn't getting much sex and cause he's using porn he doesn't want much sex.
It might be you too. If you aren't asking or showing that you are interested in sex when you want it, he might not be pushing you for it either. So neither of you end up having it even though you both want it because you think that the other one isn't interested.
You seem to have low self esteem and that might affect things too. He might notice that you aren't very confident during sex. He might think that your lack of confidence is actually a lack of interest and he might think that you're just not really into sex!
There are all sorts of reasons. I think that you have to talk to him about it a bit. You're just guessing at the moment. Everything that you assume that he is thinking is actually influence by your opinions and thoughts about the subject and you may be way of the mark when you compare it to what he is really thinking.
I was born six and a half weeks premature. While I'm on the shorter side for a guy, I'm not small - I'm quite stocky in fact, and neither of my parents are tall so that explains why I'm shorter too. Being premature doesn't normally affect your size. I believe (but don't quote me on this I may be wrong) that it can affect you if you were really really early and have had serious health problems all your life because of that - and then it's not so much being premature as it is the serious health problems that affect your growth.
Ya well I was 10 weeks early. So I guess thats really really early? And I also did have health complications as well. So ya....I think it's that my b/f uses porn when he masturbates and so he's not into sex as much as me. I think it's that to be honest.
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