sex and cold sores

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Registered: 11-05-2004
sex and cold sores
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Sat, 01-01-2005 - 4:07pm

me and my guy friend for over 3 years now ended up having sex for the 1st time. he gets cold sores and i'm deathly afraid of catching it. at the time when we were having sex, he didn't have any physical cold sores and didn't look like he had one recently. i was too embarassed to ask him about it. i took my chances and we made out and other parts of my body were kissed. after the fact, i started to get really worried about contracting cold sores. i always told myself that i would never in my life kiss him or let his mouth near my genitals but i gave in and made out with him while having sex. when we liked each other 2 years ago, i considered going out with him but had a big complex because i knew i would refrain from kissing him. what are my chances of contracting cold sores and should i be as worried as i am? i've been hitting all websites and books about it. i enjoy being with him but if i know it means catching cold sores or having them turn into genital herpes if he "eats me out" then i just cannot do it. what should i do?

Just do it and done!!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-11-2004
Sun, 01-02-2005 - 12:44pm

Hi Hipjaz:


1-My wife (28+ years) has HSV-1, cold sores.

 

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Registered: 11-05-2004
Sun, 01-02-2005 - 2:24pm
wern't u a bit scared at the beginning? i feel like i'm making a big deal out of nothing and that i'm being judgemental but i really really don't want to catch it. the guy i've been having sex with is a great guy. we've had our ups and downs and we really know each other and consent that this is just sex and it won't jeoperdize anything but that's beside the point. the point is, i trust him to be intimate with more than any other guy but the cold sores are bugging me. do u think he would know how to manage it? did you ever think you had contracted cold sores?

Just do it and done!!